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An Awful Time

By |November 24th, 2018|

An Awful Time

It’s three years today since we lost you Mam, since our lives were forever marred
Another year I can’t buy, that special Mam and Dad Christmas card
There are days it still feels unreal, to speak to Dad, but not hear your voice
Its difficult to get through this time, be strong, and try our best […]

Grief and Loss

By |May 6th, 2017|

Grief and Loss

Its been a while since I wrote about grief and loss. As a counsellor and blogger, the issue of what to write about often comes to me whilst enjoying one of my favourite pass times, drinking coffee at a nice cafe with comfortable armchairs, you know the type right,  today I just happened […]

Those we love are never forgotten

By |February 12th, 2014|

A lit up candle light for a grief moment.
I want to share my grief in the hope that I can finally get some closure and find a peace so I do. I live in Belfast and I have struggled with the loss of my son almost 25 years ago, in what was described as […]

A Bereavement Journey – ‘Writing as Therapy’

By |February 21st, 2013|

Since writing my last entry in which I talked about the fourth task of mourning, I have continued to explore my thoughts and feelings, not only about how it feels to have a husband die, but also about the experience of putting what I thought and felt into words and then writing them down.

I remembered […]

A Bereavement Journey – ‘Letting Go and Moving On’

By |February 20th, 2013|

I am wondering if this might the most difficult task to write about because it is what I am doing now.

The bereavement model that I have mentioned before describes this part as ‘emotionally relocating the deceased and moving on with life’. I don’t interpret that as forgetting but more like finding a way to acknowledge […]

A Bereavement Journey – ‘Getting used to it’

By |February 19th, 2013|

I have already mentioned the theoretical model that makes sense to me and that the author writes of the four tasks the individual completes or achieves before mourning can be described as ‘over’. How long this takes is up to the bereaved person, for some, perhaps, it’s never over. I am trying to share how […]