What my clients say

‘I was encouraged to seek counselling after being ‘found out’ at home.

I initially looked at some other counselling websites suggested to me, but was sceptical that they would have anyone with knowledge of the topic of cross-dressing or who I could speak to in a non-judgemental way.

It was therefore a relief to come across Paul’s website, with its background information and articles on the topic, which made me feel less isolated.

Despite being wary of counselling and of discussing personal issues, I found it easy to speak to Paul in my first session. He is completely non-judgemental and really understands the subject.

It was reassuring to understand where the urge to cross-dress originates from, and to hear Paul’s insights on the topic, based on many years’ experience, and learn of some of the options for managing it.’

R. UK.
June 2024.

‘Paul is a very caring and thoughtful therapist.

It was the first time I was able to openly speak about some troubling things in my life.

I had been very ashamed about cross-dressing since early childhood. Paul gave me a different perspective and explained in very clear terms what origins of this behaviour could be.

I felt heard and being listened to and his explanation and advice took away a lot of pressure and unhelpful emotions.

I am very grateful to have found him online.’

F. Germany.
May 2024.

‘I am 76 in August this year and have been a crossdresser since around the age of 8.

I started to look for a counsellor but found it very difficult to find anyone who had experience in crossdressing, that is until I came across Paul Parkin’s website. Both my wife and I read the information on his website and decided to book an initial consultation for me. On the basis that I have, apart from my wife, not spoken to anybody about my crossdressing before, it was a big step for me. Paul is non- judgemental and was very clear in his approach to the possible causes of my crossdressing and at the same time looked at the position from my wife’s point of view, something I found very interesting but also daunting.

Of course, it is very easy to say that everything became clear after the initial consultation but what it actually did was to open a lot of the boxes that I had put my thoughts into over the past 67 years. I have booked another meeting with Paul to continue with my journey and would urge anybody who is struggling with their relationship because of their crossdressing to speak to Paul’

P. UK.
May 2024.

‘I struggled for most of my life about how to deal with fears and anxiety.

I then reached out to Paul and after two short conversations, I was able to understand why I was struggling and what to do going forward.

Reaching out to Paul has really helped me and I’m very grateful.’

K. UK.
April 2024.

‘I found Paul helpful and professional. He explained very important facts about cross dressing in simple words and verbalised problems and ideas for possible solutions.

I feel relieved to know he can guide us to re-build our trust, at the same time I feel no pressure to work on this process, knowing Paul is there to help us.

I have felt alone and isolated for a long time, because I could not talk about this with anyone.

Now we feel I should have contacted him earlier, so that we could have avoided un-constructive arguments and sleepless nights.’

Anonymous, UK.
April 2024.

‘I do not know you. I do not know your circumstances, fears or what you believe to be your purpose.

Maybe you’ve come to a crossroad in your journey, like myself. This was not my first stop or attempt to find answers or seek help.

I believe I have found safe harbor and a very real place to mend my nets and return to a worthy course.

As a cross dresser for most all my life (over 55 years), it has been the thrill of my life that has turned against me.

I cannot deny the pull remains as strong and warm as the aroma of wet nail lacquer, the feel of fresh lipstick, those finishing touches to become femme.

But I seek another way to feel whole and to understand. My closet is no longer large enough to hide within.

Outside is an unacceptable reality. My wife is more important and of a value that I cannot quantify. You and I have choice. I am here for that reason.

You read this (I believe) because you have a need to know and looking within while the shadows of your closet offer no answers.

I was dubious reaching out to Paul, after all, it was a different society from my small town America, but what he shares as his testimony told me this was worth the risk.

I say without equivocation, I have found where I need to be in my search.

Paul Parkin is a Godsend to this flawed man. Take the chance. You may well also find the help and answers you seek.

Best of luck and prayers for you. It is not easy.’

Vernon, an American. TIMSHEL!
April 2024.

‘Having only recently discovered my husband is a cross dresser after 16 years of marriage was quite a shock and I felt isolated and didn’t know what to think about where our relationship was heading.

I reached out to Paul and found a knowledgeable, empathetic person who could provide me with answers to my questions and help me find perspective and a sense of peace as we navigate this new phase in our relationship.

After just one session I feel more at peace and less fearful than I have the past few weeks.

Having found Paul I know that we have someone who understands our situation and has the experience to provide the extra support we need right now.’

S. Australia.
March 2024.

‘I went into my initial call with Paul full of fear, confusion, questions and anxiety. After just 30 minutes my mind is much calmer and I have come away feeling much more confident and knowledgeable. I look forward to working with him in the future’.

D.
March 2024.

‘I was apprehensive at talking this as through with you but felt as though a weight has been lifted from me following our first session. Just wish I had found your details months ago.

Talking it through helped me to make sense of it all and understand what I now need to do which is difficult when everything is just whirling around in your mind.

Your knowledge and explanations were helpful and I felt like is wasn’t a major issue after all following our conversation, but I had clarity and knew what to do next which was invaluable.

Thanks again for your time’

P. UK.
February 2024.

‘I was worried and nervous about making the first contact with Paul but straight away he messaged me to find out how I was feeling and made an appointment with him the next day. He offered me a range of options and times to suit me and even offered a voice call or video call. After I had made my introduction to Paul, I found him very easy to understand and very easy to talk to. He was a great communicator and listener and offered me advice after my first talk with him. I have another session booked and I am very hopeful that Paul will definitely be able to help me and my wife moving forward in our relationship.

Please do get in contact with Paul if you feel like talking to someone. He’s a genuine guy and shares a lot of his experiences to help you.

Thank you, Paul at least I know I have someone on my side’.

Paul, UK.
November 2023.

‘It was a great meeting Paul, so productive for me. I already feel a giant weight lifted and so much more hopeful about how to talk with my husband. The notes I have shared with him so far are going really well, so I also feel hopeful about that.

Paul was so fast to respond to my request for a first appointment, and he was able to immediately get me on his schedule. More importantly, he eagerly understanding, as well as dedicated to helping me feel comfortable, confident, and empowered in the matter I brought to him, he addressed my questions and concerns. I look forward to doing more work with him’

H. Utah, USA.
November 2023

‘Paul has not just helped me become me again, but also I am now a more improved me. I had been programmed from a young age to see things a certain way and events in my adult life had further skewed my outlook on life, and I was amongst other things, an anxious person and a negative thinker before contacting Paul.

Through our weekly chats, Paul has helped me grow as a person. He has guided me through ways to overcome my anxiety, start believing (or stop doubting) myself and given me the tools to continue to manage any negative self talk.

On more than one occasion, i have needed help outside of our weekly sessions and Paul has been there for me and I know this will continue to be true as i move forward with my life.

Thanks for all your help with me Paul, so far and in the future.’

S. UK.
October 2023

‘Paul has been a great help to me. I got the session because I didn’t know what exactly it meant or what it was what I was doing.

He could really clarify why people start crossdressing and what it means. He hit the nail right home with me. He is very knowledgeable about this subject, and a lot of other therapists don’t have this knowledge (because it is kind of a misunderstood subject).

Also he gave me clear handles to work on in my life so I can be more resilient and self-worth’

Anonymous, Netherlands.
October 2023

‘I have had one introductory session with Paul and found him not only to be very knowledgeable and insightful on specialist topics, but also completely non-judgemental, reassuring and understanding in his approach.

I came away from the session feeling much better equipped to handle some situations I was worried about, and I feel validated in my thoughts and feelings.

I feel confident I will be able to make some positive changes in my life as a result of the support and information Paul provided today.’

Anonymous – USA.
August 2023

‘After more than 20 years of marriage my wife discovered that I am a crossdresser and overnight, my whole life and not just my marriage was in crisis. In short, my wife and I needed professional help and after a false start with an inexperienced and reckless counsellor, we thankfully found Paul.

He has been a pillar of support for my wife in helping her to reason and understand my crossdressing, and has provided a catalyst for open and honest conversations with each other.

He has been instrumental in helping me to develop a roadmap to an authentic life, to begin to shake off a lifetime of shame, anger and patterns of self-centered behaviour.

Paul has also taught me strategies and techniques to break life-long habitual anxieties that had become part of my persona and affected those around me.

Paul has literally offered me a new start from within myself and I will be forever grateful for his professional help. It is all a work in progress, but the progression feeds a certain contentment’

Anonymous – USA
August 2023

‘I contacted Paul after reading the cross-dressing information on his website. His explanation of cross dressing has been very helpful for me and helped me understand it much better. He was able to answer questions I had based on his extensive experience working with crossdressers and their relations.

I continued working with Paul and found him very clear and liked his no nonsense approach. We worked through a number of strategies to manage anxiety and reduce stress, each of which I’ve found helpful in different ways. I will continue to use these in the future to better recognise my feelings and how they are influencing my behaviour.

Working online allowed me the flexibility to speak with Paul from different locations at our agreed times. I liked that he always sent a reminder message a few hours before our sessions and was well organised with administrative matters. I may decide to work with him again in the future.’

Dan – UK
June 2023

‘After recently finding out my partner has been cross dressing since he can remember, I have felt very confused and a lot of upset.

Naturally, I began to Google and panic that my partner would not be attracted to me and that it may mean he’s confused about his gender.

I have only had an introductory session with Paul, but if you are considering it and need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to get an initial chat booked in. After only 30 minutes I already feel alot more understanding on a topic I knew nothing about. I want to fully support and understand my partner, and I hope he also would like to speak to Paul to understand more about himself and the way he is feeling. I don’t want him to feel alienated anymore.

Paul is kind, understanding and puts you at complete ease. From reading other reviews about couples seeking support from Paul after years of marriage it can be very daunting for a younger couple (we are both 24) but I feel that I will be better equipped and knowledgeable to support someone I love moving forward. Thank you, Paul – I look forward to our next Session.’

Susan – UK
May 2023

‘I highly recommend Paul to anyone seeking guidance and support. As someone who initially approached him with concerns about crossdressing, I can say that he has helped me gain a better understanding of myself and my identity. Their approach has been non-judgemental, allowing me to explore my concerns in a safe and supportive way.

Paul has also been able to help combat negative self talk and feel more positive about myself. He is easy to talk to and I have always felt understood during our sessions.

Overall, I am grateful for the help and support that Paul has given me and highly recommend his services to anyone seeking a compassionate and knowledgeable therapist.’

Phil – UK
April 2023

‘Paul has helped me with a couple of different issues over the years and helped me work out each one with no further help needed.

He gave me several great coping strategies to reduce anger and anxiety such as breathing, meditation and thought filing, which I had never tried before.

Each time Paul would show me a new coping technique, he would ensure that I knew how to do it correctly and he would check that I had been keeping up with them at the start of every new session.

Paul’s advice and demeanour during the sessions we had was exceptional, he was also there to help outside of booked sessions if an urgent issue needed to be worked out.

I found Paul very welcoming and his help and advice was exceptional, I would definitely recommend him to anyone who is looking for counselling.’

Ja – UK
April 2023

‘I am so glad that I contacted Paul and began online counseling sessions. After almost 30 years of mostly secretive crossdressing, I had reached a point where I was unsure about myself and my marriage was teetering.

The apprehension of having an online meeting with a total stranger was quickly alleviated when I met Paul. He is caring and compassionate. His insights and guidance have allowed me to better understand and accept myself as well as helping to mend my relationship with my wife and family.

He has been flexible with appointments, and has also offered extra sessions when needed.

If you are reading these testimonials and are unsure, as I was. Please do yourself a favor and set up an appointment.’

Henry – USA
April 2023

‘I have found online counselling invaluable. It’s convenient and successful.

‘I was very nervous about talking to Paul initially, but once we started everything was very easy.

We talked about where the compulsion to crossdress might have come from and his analysis really helped, to the extent that I think there was a time where I went ‘hold on, I’m doing this to myself, and the desire went from something that just came and went, to something that I had more control over.

This was a bit overwhelming initially but with the techniques that Paul introduced me to, I’m confident that I can now handle things in the future.

I’m really grateful to Paul for his guidance and my only regret is that I didn’t do this twenty years earlier!’

Cheers, Paul – you’ve been brilliant!’

J. UK.
March 2023

‘When my husband and I were experiencing some challenges with communication, we had a series of counselling sessions over the phone with Paul. Paul’s objectivity helped us see one another’s point of view. And, with his support and a series of exercises, we learned to communicate better and appreciate each other more. Would highly recommend Paul’s online counselling for anyone looking to improve their relationship.’

S. France.
March 2023

‘After 50+ years of struggling with the shame and guilt attached to the stigma of crossdressing, the anxiety, stress and overwhelming fear of being discovered pushed me to seek professional help. Finding Paul was such a gift.

With Paul’s guidance and support, my journey to self acceptance has been a very positive one. Paul has so many qualities that make him an effective counselor. In addition to being experienced and knowledgeable in many areas, He is warm, friendly, engaging, empathetic, compassionate, a good listener, non-judgemental, easy to talk to and so much more!

The convenience of on-line counseling and especially the privacy it offers was key in helping me openly and honestly discuss my issues with Paul.

I have a new-found confidence, a more positive attitude and a great sense of hope for the future – all of which I owe to working with Paul.

Do yourself a favor. If you’ve ever considered seeking professional help and hesitated because you didn’t know where to look – reach out to Paul. You will be forever grateful you did.’

Steve – USA
Jan, 2023

‘Working with Paul has been a real pleasure. Being online it is really convenient and he is really flexible. It is great to work with someone who is non-judgemental and is able to offer lots of effective tips to make each day more manageable.’

M. – Europe
November, 2022

‘Paul has been an amazing counsellor/therapist. His knowledge and understanding of crossdressing is amazing and quite rare. He always made me feel at ease and comfortable, his skills and technique is quite brilliant. He really helped me unlock issues I have been grappling with since I was a child. From brilliant tools he coaches you through to being a steady calm voice when your mind is racing, I cannot thank him or recommend him enough.’

D. – UK
November, 2022

‘Hi Paul,

I hope you’re having a good day.

I just wanted to say that I’ve had some time to reflect on the past couple of years and everything that has happened and just wanted to say thank you, you really have helped to make me a stronger, more focused person who can see far more clearly.

I really do appreciate the time you have spent listening to me and, not just giving me advice, but the tools to handle anything that comes my way.’

L. – UK
September, 2022

‘In November 2021 I contacted Paul to help me to deal with some personal issues. I never had counselling before, and my experience couldn’t be better. Paul provided me with support, calming down my thoughts, and showing me different ways to face what I was thinking were difficult situations. He is a great professional, always bringing practical solutions to apply. Also, the online sessions worked really well, as you have flexibility to fit it in your day however your needs are. I would not hesitate to recommend Paul’s service. Thank you very much Paul for all you did.’

A. – UK
May, 2022

‘I worked with Paul for around 8 months to deal with issues around low self esteem and difficulties with my sexuality and marriage. It was a great experience all round and gave me useful techniques to face life’s challenges. He was calm and supportive and always stressed that he was there to help me, to fight in my corner. Paul clearly has a depth of knowledge earned over many years experience in counselling. I was particularly impressed with Paul’s ability to provide useful insight into anything I threw at him, practically at a moment’s notice.’

N. – UK
January, 2022

‘I came to Paul to help me deal with a long-standing depression as well as the problems I was having in my relationship. I have to say that working with Paul has been a fantastic experience. He has given me a tonne of tools to use and helped me to understand my own mind and emotional landscape.

Being able to talk to Paul over video chat and occasionally via text or on the phone when needed was great. He’s been flexible and patient with me over the years that we have worked together and I can’t thank him enough for everything that he has done.’

Aaron – UK
November, 2021

‘I contacted Paul out of desperation in relation to crossdressing, i have struggled with this issue my whole life, my self-worth and relationships have always been problematic.

Paul has helped me accept myself and for the first time, be able to look in the mirror and feel good about my authentic self.

Paul also helped my wife understand that my crossdressing was something we could work with in our relationship, with his help, we were able to find our way through this and our relationship is actually better than it ever was, we can now talk about both of our needs and wants.’

Art – USA
October, 2021

‘I contacted Paul at the beginning of 2021 feeling pretty splintered about quite a few things. I wasn’t sure of where my life was headed, how to get anywhere and how to deal with the negative, catastrophizing, self-critical thoughts along the way.

I was down on myself because I’ve been sober for over 5 years and yet I felt as if my life had no direction and there were still many things that needed to be untangled and talked about.

Paul helped me think about what I’d like to accomplish in working with him and what I’d like to talk about. We looked at everything from childhood, relationship with parents, sexual relationships, intimacy and fetishes, along with addiction, work, career and character building. Paul had something helpful for me every step of the way whether it was breathing techniques, reading about the brain, processing the past or how to exist in the here and now and move forward. The biggest help Paul offered me was thinking about the future and how to walk towards it. Scheduling my life, dealing with my thoughts and feelings and even throwing out old socks with holes in them were all a part of my journey towards direction and sanity.

He was also extremely helpful in connecting to my girlfriend and getting closer with her. We hadn’t a great way of communicating before Paul recommended some pretty straight forward help in checking in with each other and making sure our needs are being met separately and together. It was actually some simple stuff to do, but it changed everything in the way we communicate to this day.

I feel as if today I still have a lot going on inside my head, but the difference between before I started with Paul and now is night and day. I know being present and looking forward is healthy for me and I know having a schedule to get there has made all the difference in my life. Paul has helped me get busy with the things that help me have a life and stay out of negative thinking, which is really my biggest problem when I get right down to it. Paul has helped me immensely in just a few months of good work together.

I would recommend Paul’s help to anyone looking to make some sense of their life and their relationships, trying to find direction, or simply have someone to bounce things off of for feedback. I believe he is top quality and I will continue to return to Paul for help, counseling, feedback and guidance as long as he is doing this work.

Thank you Paul for all that you do! Your friend.’

Sean – USA
July, 2021

‘I had always had many negative thoughts that brought me down, made me feel depressed, anxious, discouraged, sad and many more negative feelings. And that made my life miserable; I avoided socialising, studying, working in a pressured environment.

But then, Paul introduced a thought management tool to me; A thought reframing tool. It helps me recognise my own negative thoughts clearly, and then I reframe them into a positive one.

With the help of this tool, I kept journaling for 3 weeks and had counselling session with Paul once/week to review my journals and make sense of them. My cognitive behavior just changed, it has changed my feelings to positive ones and then my behaviors start to change for the better.

I don’t feel like a loser and escape the reality by sleeping too much anymore. I have good attitudes toward life, and I start doing things that I once thought were impossible for me. I focus better, I have enthusiasm to learn new things and I don’t over think and I don’t avoid making mistakes anymore. I am living my life!

Thank you, Paul, for introducing this tool to me and guiding me toward a happier and brighter future.

If anyone has been feeling bad and unhappy without knowing why, you might have negative thoughts toward yourself and your life. I highly recommend Paul and his tried and tested tools to help live a better and happier life!’

T. – Thailand
May, 2021

‘I had never had counselling before and heard about Paul through a family member. As us men really find it hard to reach out and talk about our struggles.

I lost my best friend 2 years ago and Paul helped me to understand the grieving process and accept my best friends death.

Paul also helped me with my self confidence and a few other areas too.

I just want to say how much Paul has helped me through the tough days and made me realise that life is worth fighting for! I honestly can’t thank Paul enough for what he has done for me in the time we have worked together.

I never thought I’d ever make that brave/scary move to ask for help, but I’m so so glad I did. I’m an anxious person as it is and Paul put me at ease from the get go!

Thank you so much Paul, I’d highly recommend him to anyone.’

Sam – UK
April, 2021

‘I spoke with Paul on several occasions and he was able to give me great insight into my cross dressing boyfriend. It helped me to understand and accept him in a really useful way that we have resolved the difficulties we were having. The online element to me was fab as, I had privacy and Paul being remote actually made the difficult topics easy to talk about. Thank you for your wonderful help 😊’

A. – UK
April, 2021

‘I contacted Paul after much thought and the sense of relief I felt was enormous.

I’d discovered 5 years ago that my husband was a cross dresser. Our relationship has suffered through this and other life issues, subsequently separating.

Recently though we’ve got back together and with Paul’s help have looked into the cross dressing and the reasons behind it and our relationship as a whole. We are now in the process of rebuilding.

Paul has been so so important in all of this, helping both of us with his insight, compassion and a great person to offload to.

For me as a wife of a cross dresser Paul has removed the taboo that surrounds this, so important when you are trying to see a way through a situation that I thought at first was totally hopeless.

I’d say to anyone who finds them self in the same situation, that there is help out there and you are not on your own. Paul has a wealth of knowledge on this subject and this is why I approached him.

Good luck!’

S. – UK
January, 2021

‘My partner and I contacted Paul because we were looking for relationship counselling. We’d been together for nearly 10 years but were going through a very tough time where trust was broken and we couldn’t go on anymore without external help.

Paul replied instantly and was really flexible setting up the first session. All of them were held separately which makes sense as it enabled him to get to know both sides of the story without anyone of us feeling like they can’t be honest or holding back.

He’s been incredibly supportive from the beginning on and gave us tools and exercises in each session to apply every day. He gave us not just individual tools on how to cope with anger, stress, frustration and anxiety, but also couples’ tools helping our communication with and understanding towards each other.

Overall, we worked with him for four to five months and had mostly individual sessions combined with a couple of joined ones.

I can honestly say that Paul has helped lift our relationship to a new level which I never thought we’d be able to reach again. We’re now happier together than ever, but also feel much better individually. I thoroughly recommend working with him and would always reach out to him again if I ever felt like it. Plus, the sessions are very reasonably priced compared to other counselling options.

Thank you Paul.’

Annica – UK
December, 2020

‘After researching and contacting a couple of different therapists, I decided to go with Paul after discussing my requirements (primarily work on a severe phobia, and some self-esteem, anxiety and depression issues) as he came across as friendly, empathetic and knowledgeable.

His approach blended CBT and NLP techniques with some talking therapy, and he was kind and understanding throughout the whole process, always explaining why he was introducing certain actions and how they would help, and always reassuring me and reminding me how much progress I was making, which was invaluable in those moments when I was down and couldn’t see it myself.

I felt validated, listened to, and supported from Paul, and in the 6 months he worked with me, am in a much better place mentally- plus I now have mental tools and techniques on which I can fall back as I need them.

My former phobia is reduced to a stage I would have thought completely impossible, as I’ve suffered from it since as early as I can remember, from childhood. I will continue working on it using what Paul has taught me, and I know my quality of life due to this is much improved.

My advice if anyone is deliberating over hiring Paul is to go for it- he has been wonderful and well worth it, and you feel like a wise friend is guiding you throughout the whole process.

Thanks, Paul, and I will definitely come back to you in future should I need further help.’

Zoe – UK
December, 2020

‘I was skeptical about going through the therapy process online / over the phone, but I wouldn’t change anything.

Before speaking to Paul I was mentally in a really bad way, and I couldn’t understand how I felt about anything. I was a serial overthinker. Paul helped me understand myself and has made me feel comfortable and confident in my own skin. He is flexible and easy to talk to and you work through things at your own speed.

The therapy continues outside of the sessions as he gives you “homework” – things to work on in between speaking, that enabled me to learn more about myself than I had ever even expected.

Speaking to Paul has changed my life.’

A. – UK
June, 2020

‘Paul has supported me through one of the most difficult emotional periods of my life. I fell in love with another man and I was struggling to walk through the situation and make decisions, I felt guilty and I felt confused. I wanted to be true to myself but kind and considerate in the way I handled it.

I’m at the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in my life with my husband. Our marriage is stronger than ever and Paul has helped me understand a lot about love, feelings, needs and relationships. I have been true to myself and I have inner peace beyond all expectation.

Paul has also supported me in my loss for the man I developed feelings for and explained that grieving is a process.

He has been amazing, professional and never judgmental of this very tough journey that caused me so much angst. Forever grateful Paul.

To anyone out there who needs someone to support them – get in touch with Paul, reach out and form a helping relationship. It’s the biggest gift you can give to yourself.’

Judy – UK
April, 2020

‘When I first approached Paul to enquire about counselling I was struggling with cross dressing and gender identity issues. These were long standing concerns which I had already researched extensively but I was having real problems with self acceptance and trying to work out who I was and where I fit into the scheme of things.

From the outset Paul was totally non-judgemental and made it clear that he accepted me as I am without preconditions. Over time he introduced me to a number of tools to help me challenge my ways of thinking and how they could be reframed.

I worked through these procedures conscientiously and they turned out to be really life changing. There were a number of light bulb moments when I suddenly felt as if I was seeing things clearly for the first time and gradually everything just seemed to fall neatly into place.

I can’t say how grateful I am to Paul for sharing his knowledge, insightful help and advice. I think it’s fair to say that my long-standing ghosts have now been laid and thanks to his counselling skills I am able to live an authentic, fulfilling life being me and not someone else’s idea of who I should be.

I know this saying is a cliche but it’s true – ‘Be yourself – everyone else is taken’.

Thanks Paul. A wholehearted recommendation and I’m sure you’ll continue to help others in the kind and skillful way you’ve helped me.’

J. – UK
March, 2020

‘My husband and I had been together for 28 years but had been living apart for 14 months when we decided to contact Paul. We had different reasons for contacting him. I was ready to move onto the next phase of my life alone. My husband was determined to work at starting our relationship again.

The ease of contact and the positive reviews of Pauls online counselling service resulted in us starting our counselling sessions. He worked with us individually. It was quite intensive but his supportive and caring approachmade me face issues and ask searching questions of myself, my perceptions and my relationship.

I had previously experienced counselling services but Paul offered a very effective mix of kindness, support and practical techniques which helped me resolve issues from childhood which had affected my life, relationships and mental health. He is the first counsellor who took the time to understand me and question my perceptions. It was quite disturbing in a positive way but it enabled me to trust in him when he asked me to deal with some quite emotionally upsetting feelings. As a result I have closure and I have never regretted it.

As a direct result of our hard work, Pauls insight, direction and support my husband and I are together again, enjoying a totally different relationship and looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together. Our understanding of each other has been enhanced, our intimacy improved, and I can honestly say we enjoy quality time together after 29 years of highs and lows, problems, and separations.

I feel blessed to have Paul as my counsellor and would have no hesitation in recommending his services.

Thank you Paul.’

Sue – UK
March, 2020

‘My husband and I had been together for 28 years but had been living apart for 14 months when we decided to contact Paul. We had different reasons for contacting him. I was ready to move onto the next phase of my life alone. My husband was determined to work at starting our relationship again.

The ease of contact and the positive reviews of Pauls online counselling service resulted in us starting our counselling sessions. He worked with us individually. It was quite intensive but his supportive and caring approachmade me face issues and ask searching questions of myself, my perceptions and my relationship.

I had previously experienced counselling services but Paul offered a very effective mix of kindness, support and practical techniques which helped me resolve issues from childhood which had affected my life, relationships and mental health. He is the first counsellor who took the time to understand me and question my perceptions. It was quite disturbing in a positive way but it enabled me to trust in him when he asked me to deal with some quite emotionally upsetting feelings. As a result I have closure and I have never regretted it.

As a direct result of our hard work, Pauls insight, direction and support my husband and I are together again, enjoying a totally different relationship and looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together. Our understanding of each other has been enhanced, our intimacy improved, and I can honestly say we enjoy quality time together after 29 years of highs and lows, problems, and separations.

I feel blessed to have Paul as my counsellor and would have no hesitation in recommending his services.

Thank you Paul.’

Sue – UK
March, 2020

‘I chose online counselling because I was living in a country (China) with very limited access to counselling services. From the start Paul was very accommodating, even downloading WeChat to get around the Great Firewall! The last few months have been a time of transition in my life, but Paul has been with me every step of the way, supporting me to make healthy decisions and to remember to always be mindful of how my thoughts are driving my moods and actions.

I have always struggled with emotion regulation, which has caused me all sorts of problems throughout my life, not least in my relationships. Paul has helped me learn to pause and breathe before responding to things, rather than just reacting, which has made a huge difference to how I now deal with issues in my current relationship. His non-judgemental attitude also gave me a new insight into both mine and my partner’s history of addictions, enabling me to be more supportive of my partner while we both work on ourselves, and to understand that we are all works in progress.

Thanks so much Paul, and hope to speak to you again in future!’

Libby – UK
November, 2019

‘I contacted Paul for online counselling due to issues within my marriage. He was nothing but supportive and helped me to see parts of myself that I hadn’t for many years.

I chose my sessions via WhatsApp as I’m a busy Mum and it was the easiest way for me to be able to ‘speak’ privately. The flexible ways of communication really make this accessible to all.’

T.S. – UK
October, 2019

‘Paul has been great help and support in our couple therapy. Access online made it possible for us to continue working on our issues no matter where we were. He made us realise how important individual emotional wellbeing is when in relationship. His ongoing support in between sessions is something you normally don’t get from a therapist.’

E.S. – UK
September, 2019

‘I was having a bad time with a number of different life issues, having found Paul Parkin’s online counselling site and reviewing his site and specialities I made contact.

The first session was very encouraging and I felt confident in booking future sessions with him.

Paul was able to define each of the problems I was having and over a number further of sessions, was able to give me the tools to come to terms and deal with my troubles.

Paul is very easy to talk to, he is not judgemental in any way, he has the knowledge and experiences to help in many different ways.

I have nothing but thanks and praise for him and would recommend him to anyone looking for a counsellor.’

Chris C – UK
July, 2019

‘To Paul

A Ray of Light

The ray of light has pushed the clouds away

It’s broken its way through

That ray of light is you

The last few weeks I let the dark clouds in

but that didn’t stop you breaking your way through

to reach out to me

Every session you worked your way through

to bring that ray of light through to me

Every session a little bit more of the dark cloud went away

At first I was ashamed of it

ashamed that I let them come back again

Your kind loving nature once again won me over

We can do this together you say

There it is again that ray of light

That shows me its going to be alright

You won’t the negativity and depression win

You know I can do better and tell me so

I remember you are friend and not foe

As I sit here to write I know I have you to thank

for showing me its alright

alright to have a blip

What’s not ok is to let it win and dip

The dark clouds have gone

The light has shone

The darkness has gone

and next time I know I will my bravery don

and tell you when I need that light

You see I know you will help me find it

my own little light

but right now I need to thank you

Thank you for being my ray of light shining bright

Happy for this to go online if you feel you want to put it up. I thought it would be nice for you to see some of the more positive writing.

I have not long been home; Mum and I went for an early dinner. I am just about to start studying for a few hours and then I am going to do some more self care and have a nice long warm bath with a candle.’

J.S. – UK
June, 2019

‘I approached Paul about coaching a year ago when I was just about to start a new big job role and I had had my confidence knocked having been made redundant in my previous role. Paul helped give me tools to assist me in dealing with high-pressure work situations, anxieties and fears, and to build confidence in myself and my abilities. Paul is a great listener and was excellent at helping me through problems. His help was incredibly useful during a really challenging year. The counselling will no doubt be invaluable in my career and life in general going forward.’

A. – UK
December, 2018

‘I contacted Paul at online counselling, because of my relationship problems, I have been having problems with relationships for as long as I can remember, Paul helped me to see that my early attachments were affecting my ability to create and maintain a good relationship. His relationship check-in tool has made such a difference already, its looking like we might save my relationship and make it what we both want.

I’m continuing my work with Paul, just needed to say a big thank you for the work already, its so convenient too, all done on Skype from my iPhone.’

Rob – Hong Kong
October, 2018

‘I found Paul Parkin’s online counselling service during a Google search. I was immediately attracted to this service in particular, initially because of the easy to read and understand information, then by the testimonials, it was clear to see that Paul was perceived by his past clients as helpful and caring.

When I initially contacted Paul, he could not have been more helpful.

As time passed and we worked through my life-long issues of low self worth and my troubles with making and maintaining relationships, I have now learned that my childhood and the attachment I experienced all had a major impact.

Paul has equipped me with a useful array of therapeutic tools and strategies to help me make better choices.

I would not hesitate to recommend Paul’s service to anyone needing support and practical solutions.

Thank you, Paul.’

Art – USA
September, 2018

‘I found Paul’s counselling services online and it was very quick and easy to set up my first call with him, the price was very competitive too.

I came to Paul with one big issue that was destroying my relationship and nearly ended it, Paul helped me in various ways through behavioural therapy and he taught me techniques I couldn’t have imagined that would help me. Paul has lifted a weight off my shoulder and made my relationship so much better.

Without a doubt I would recommend Paul, he is fantastic and well worth the cost. Thank you Paul once again for your brilliant services!’

A. – UK
August, 2018

‘Paul has been a great help in the past couple of weeks, he has helped me from a place of crisis to a place of calm, I will work continues but I felt compelled to share how totally amazing is simple strategies and therapeutic tools are.

For the first time in many years, I feel I have a life worth living.

I look forward to continuing my journey

Thank you Paul’

Eddie – USA
March, 2018

‘Paul is an excellent and caring counsellor, whether it’s online, face-to-face or intensive counselling, I have benefited from all three.

I now understand that I was clinically depressed, I had an anxiety disorder and felt that I had no hope. I was not functioning; I couldn’t work, and I couldn’t socialise. All I could do was stay at home and struggle day to day, I was so desperate.

I was unemployed and my finances were tight, he generously offered me his service at a reduced fee.

Initially Paul helped me get through my crisis, we then worked on socialisation and thought management techniques to help me change my pattern of negative thinking.

He helped me to feel relaxed around people, using breathing and relaxation techniques to reduce my anxiety, get rid of my unwanted thoughts. I felt like I had woken up from a long nightmare.

It’s like my consciousness started to perceive the world as it really was.

I had previously felt like a baby in an adult’s body, but then I knew I could grow as a person to become a fully functioning and responsible man.

He had keen eyes to see what my issues were and what needed to be fixed, he was patiently working with me to help me fix them one by one.

I have grown as a person progressively ever since. My inner self has not yet caught up with my physical body, but I’m getting there.

I now know who I am and I know how to interact with the world around me. These are all thanks to Paul and his commitment to help me be authentic and be my best self.

After the initial intensive therapy at my home, we continued online via Skype. I now have regular sessions with Paul.

As well as dealing with any current blips, we have also agreed a plan of work, I prioritise the things I want to work on and we deal with them one by one.’

Patee – Thailand
March, 2018

‘I first approached Paul after opening up to my wife about my cross dressing / gender identity. It is something I have been battling with for a long time. Paul’s excellent counselling made me feel great about who I was and finally lifted a weight from my shoulders. The most important thing to me is my marriage and my wife’s wellbeing. Paul gave me the strategies to effectively communicate with my wife and give her reassurance. After a few rocky weeks, things have settled down and all is well now. Thanks Paul!’

J. – UK
October, 2017

‘I was sad, frustrated and didn’t know where to go when I contacted Paul.

My marriage was wonderful but my wife did not know the real me and it was creating barriers that were not fair to either of us.

Paul is so understanding and easy to talk to and, through his guidance, I wrote a letter to my wife, from my heart, which explained why I needed to dress and how I felt deep inside. Her reaction was amazing and a massive burden has been lifted from my shoulders.

We are now on a new journey with Paul constantly there for support if needed. My happiness now, after so many years of suppression, is incalculable.

Thank you so much Paul, you have been, and still are, wonderful.’

Rachael – UK
September, 2017

‘If I hadn’t been sure about online counselling before I spoke to Paul, then I was after my initial session last week.

I gave Paul my history (depression and anxiety) and mentioned finances were also an issue.

At the end of my scheduled 30 minute intro session, which was actually 40 minutes, Paul said he always gave a little extra time free.

Paul asked if I was happy to continue working with him, as he had given me what I believed to be an excellent therapeutic tool, I did not hesitate to say yes.

He had made a scary experience remarkably easy and I felt an instant calm and connection, I felt hopeful that he could help me.

I was overwhelmed with gratitude when Paul offered without any prompting to reduce the session fee for me.

Paul is clearly someone who does this not only as a business but because he wants genuinely to help.

Thank you – I look forward to continuing our work and for the first time in years I have hope.’

Alan – USA
May, 2017

‘Hi Paul,

Happy New Year to you. I hope this finds you well.

I am in a great place now and wish to cancel this weekend’s session. Many thanks for your support to date. Your counselling and techniques have been invaluable in getting me through a very difficult period and I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with my loved ones free of my previous problems. Feel free to use this as a testimonial but please do so anonymously.

Many thanks.’

A. – UK
January, 2017

‘I truly cannot thank you enough for your kindness and help throughout what has been an incredible journey of discovery of who I really am. The sessions completed with Paul over the six month period helped me to not only understand who I was but also why and how my problems had developed through the prior thirty years.

As a reserved individual I had never delved deeply into the fundamentals behind my feelings and through Paul’s unwavering support I was able to achieve some truly “light bulb moments” to overcome many of the problems I had never before addressed.

The format of each session was relaxed via Skype, either voice or video which suited me perfectly and Paul was always, and continues to be available, via email for those times when support may be needed.

In very simple terms, working with Paul, he has saved both my marriage and myself, his ability to strip away the layers of life and the trauma which had clouded my mind and perception has produced a clear vision and a direction for my life now and for the future.

It’s a tough road to travel but a rewarding journey, Paul was there for me throughout and at my pace. Getting your own journey started is the hardest part and to this end anyone considering to engage with a counsellor, I would recommend Paul to all.

Thank you’

Julian – LA, USA
November, 2016

‘I have spent most of my life searching to find a fix, Paul has helped me to grow as a person, his approach has helped me to be stronger and to cope with whatever comes next. I’m calmer and happy being me.

I would definitely recommend counsellors online as it’s convenient and practical – but also a warm and approachable service.

Thanks for everything Paul.’

R.A. – UK
October, 2016

‘I contacted Paul for online counselling as I was too ashamed to see a counsellor face to face, however in no time at all Paul has helped me to understand my need to cross dress and for the first time in years feel like a worthwhile human being again.

He has listened, accepted and helped me and my wife come to terms with and find a way forward which is working, cross dressing now feels a part of me instead of my whole life.

Thanks to Paul and his unique method of online counselling.‘

Tim – Slovakia
June, 2016

‘I contacted Paul when I searched online counselling in google, I was immediately impressed by his website, it was easy to navigate and was user friendly, the advice he gave was good and I was intrigued to get in touch with him.

Paul put me at ease over a couple of issues I had been struggling with and his eclectic approach to counselling made sense to me.

In 6 sessions we explored my worries and I have to say that today I feel like a new person, happy in my skin.

I would recommend Paul’s online counselling to anyone struggling with a personal issue.

Thanks Paul.’

Andy – Singapore
May, 2016

‘To all those who may be considering Online counselling, stop thinking and do it! The use of “Skype Chat” gives time to ponder and re-digest what has been written and can be called back at a later date which is really useful. I found Paul extremely useful in addressing all the points I needed to raise and he raised many more to the point where I feel I have found the answers I was looking for and should the need arise, Paul is always available to assist in the future, many thanks Paul!‘

A. – UK
May, 2016

‘When I was discovered cross dressed by my wife when she returned early from a business trip, I was both devastated and somewhat relieved. Of course it turned our lives upside down, that was a month ago, Paul’s online counselling has opened up the channels of communication, helped me to explore why and also enabled me to share what was such a dark secret more with my wife.

For the first time in 30 years I feel I am normal and that’s thanks to Paul and his acceptance and insight.‘

JJ. – UK
March, 2016

‘I found counsellors online when I typed cross dressing counselling into a search engine, truth be known I was in crisis and in real danger, i’d been trawling local ads and drinking myself into oblivion, trying to find acceptance, in Paul I found that acceptance and real empathy for my situation.

I cross dress every day in secret and have until speaking with Paul via Skype, hated myself. I am slowly learning that I can find a way through this. Thanks Paul, our work continues and I can’t tell you in words how much this connection means to me.‘

John – UK
April, 2016

‘I contacted Paul because my husband’s cross dressing has become a problem, he did tell me about it when he met but things have changed. Paul’s online counselling really helped me understand cross dressing and what I could do to understand and support my husband as well as how to express my feelings. Thanks Paul.‘

A. – UK
Febuary, 2016

‘I found Paul via the web when I had no one else to turn too and was in a very dark place. I found the sessions a great help and I was able to start with Paul’s help unravel the issues that I have. The online sessions are a great way of connecting with Paul and I would recommend them to anyone seeking counselling. Thank you Paul.‘

Andy – UK
October, 2015

‘Paul helped me in 6 session, I was able to change how I thought, my feelings improved and I was able to make better decisions which have already made life better, in just 6 sessions i was equipped with simple strategies and tools and I now wish i’d talked to Paul much sooner.‘

A. – UK
August, 2015

‘If you’re unsure about contacting Paul, I can say that this was me. I wondered what sort of person I might connect with. Paul is truly a wonderful human being.

I didn’t want to go and see a counsellor because I had a lot of emotion and didn’t want to actually cry in front of someone. I also thought it would work out much better financially so I looked online and found Paul.

Paul says some extremely useful things which cannot be underestimated. It was clear that he carefully understood what I wrote. I can joke now and call it ‘waffle’ but at the time, I really needed to write it and have someone respond in a sensible and caring way which Paul did.

He really seems to know what to say or even what not to say. It took a bit of time for me to fully trust him.

2 years ago, we had several sessions and he helped me immensely. I kept Paul’s contact details and recently spoken to him again for 3 sessions as I had a comparatively minor problem but instantly knew who I would write to. I really feel like he is a friend and someone on my side – but obviously better to talk to than a friend because of course, this is his job! Saying this, however, I really feel he does his job for more reasons than just money. He genuinely wants to help. He is non judgemental, kind and sincere. He will not say anything that will injure you more and help you through a difficult time.

My worst time was 2 years ago when I was not doing well in my career or love life and didn’t have many friends or family around. I was doing really badly. He really was so helpful for me. Paul helped me through this difficult time. There is no shame in going to talk to a trained professional but now with the internet, no one will ever know and you don’t have to tell anyone ever about it. However, if there is anyone I know having a difficult time, I would always say that I know someone good to talk to and this is Paul!‘

A. – UK
November, 2014

‘I contacted Counsellors Online by email as I did not have time to take an hour out of my schedule, it worked very well, he replied to me withing a couple of hours stating that he would reply to my long email later that day and he did.

Paul answered all my questions relating to my breakup with my partner and how to work through my anger, we have scheduled sessions in based around my busy schedule and I am confident he has the understanding, skills and compassion to help me heal myself.‘

Angela R. – UK
October, 2014

‘Within a few sessions Paul helped me face a projection that has been around all my life but that other therapists never picked up on. Paul is someone to go to really face things, reality and what is going on now in one’s life. I had that sense since the first session and he did not disappoint. His work is for people who really want things to be different and to be accountable. In my experience with a decent amount of therapy and different therapists over my adult life, his combination of empathy, encouragement with insight and accountability in a single person is rather uncommon.‘

D.K. – USA
August, 2014

‘I contacted Paul when in my first ever relationship crisis. Im a mature lady, divorced for 10 years with two grown up children. Generally very strong in character and never been in such a mess. At a time when I felt ready to open myself up for a relationship, for the first time in 10 years. I met a men from an online dating site. It was a long distance relationship and we would only meet up once a month, this went on for several months.

As time went on his behaviour became vague and distance, although he said he wasn’t dating others and was trying to sort out his life being separated and after a lengthy marriage. I guessed there was an external reason. To cut a long story short, it came about that the time he said he was spending with his daughters, was actually being spent with another lady local to him. ( I found this out by myself, the guy knew nothing of my knowledge)

Paul took me on as a client when I was at rock bottom and I thought I was truly in love for the first time ever with this man, I could not understand why he didn’t want me. I was very very sad, painfully hurting, confused and all this started to affect my children, parents and friends, it was affecting my professional path roo. I made excuse after excuse for his behaviour to Paul and through his careful listening, and exploring, he made a HUGE profound connection to a previous experience I had been in from almost 40 yrs ago, the WOW moment was massive and the feelings attached to that memory was exactly the same to the situation I now found myself in.

Straight away Paul gave me some techniques to address the pedestal I had this man on. Almost immediately I got to work on the homework Paul set me and was absoloutly astounded at the massive shift inside me and such positive results. More importantly that my awareness has given me the gift of never letting this happen to me again and look forward to a future with someone who truly does deserves me.

My family and friends are so surprised at the positive change this has made to me from watching me struggle for many months. Thank you so much Paul, you are a genius and a lifesaver.‘

M. – UK
August, 2014

‘After slowly losing the battle with Anxiety, I went to Paul with a very low esteem of myself and a shaky grip on my life. Even from the first session he was able to get straight to various sources of my problems. He has helped me greatly, I am still on the mend but I am now on the right path to recovery and am able to enjoy being sociable and go for meals without feeling too ill.

I look forward to working with Paul in the future should I feel the need and I would definitely recommend Paul to anyone needing support.‘

A. – UK
June, 2014

‘I feel eternally grateful to you for the support, acceptance, straight talking, advice, wisdom, love and kindness you shared with me through my time counseling with you. Thank you so much.‘

A. – Africa
May, 2014

‘I contacted Paul last year when i had moved to Thailand from Australia and was feeling isolated, not understood and struggling in general with my life which was supposed to be the life of my dreams!

I found Paul online and connected with him to discuss my alcohol issues. I had given up drinking since i left to travel but was finding it very very hard and wanted an expert in this field!

It turned out that Paul had lived in Thailand for many many years and was the perfect person to help me through what i was going through! Working with Paul i realised that my alcohol problem was purely a coping mechanism where i had learnt to drink to ‘numb’ any feelings and emotions that i was experiencing.

Paul was also able to help me in all areas of my life, not just with drinking. He is a supporting, genuine, caring counsellor with a calming presence (even if online). I chose to speak with him via Skype and that worked well for me.

I am so grateful to Paul for everything he has helped me with and so happy that i found him at the time i did. The universe aligned me with the perfect person at the perfect time!

I look forward to continuing to work with Paul in the future, and recommend him to anyone who wants to feel understood, supported and kindly and respectfully guided in areas of life you need some support.‘

H. – Thailand/Australia
May, 2014

‘I contacted Paul last year after meeting him socially and finding out about his online service and his work with teenagers. I have a 16 year old daughter who was struggling with school, had an uneasy relationship with her father and his girlfriend and was finding it difficult to socialise.

He helped her to understand how issues from her past were affecting her self esteem and the way she interacted with friends and family. She was struggling to cope with her school work and was generally very down.

She has now faced some of those issues and accepted that she cannot change things that she had no control over, but can work at changing how they affect her. We have a better relationship now, as she is aware that she can talk to me if she needs to, without it upsetting me. She is no longer overwhelmed with her school work, has stopped procrastinating about it and now has a revision plan in place for her GCSEs, which will hopefully pay dividends in the Summer.

Talking to someone outside of her family circle who could give an objective view of the situation helped her enormously and I would recommend this service to other teenagers.‘

S. – UK
April, 2014

‘I turned to Paul after finding his webpage dedicated to cross-dressing. I had just broken up with my wife and moved out of our house, leaving my son with her. It was a tough period. I have been cross-dressing since the age of 8 and it has become a regular part of my life. For me, it was an opportunity to relax, connect with my femininity and relieve sexual pressure. As happens to most cross-dressers, I have been hiding it all my life. It was my way of dealing with pressures and anxieties of teenage, university, then marriage years. I tried to battle it over and over, promising to stop each time. Secrecy and lies slowly destroyed my marriage.

I turned to Paul at a moment when I felt helpless and unsure what to do. Paul was extremely empathetic and non-judgmental. He gently guided me through the process of self-acceptance and encouraged me to experiment. I learned to cherish myself for who I am and celebrate my complex personality. I feel like I’m on a solid foundation and ready to embrace life going forward.

Within a month of working with Paul, I achieved a lot of progress. Paul’s guidance helped me to plan activities for each week and keep a daily journal which I sent him in advance of each session, so each session was really productive. Paul guided me through the painful process of separation from my family and offered invaluable advice on limiting the damage. Thanks to Paul’s help, I managed to keep very good relations with my former spouse and continue to be a good dad for my son.

I cannot recommend Paul’s services highly enough. He has a unique gift of connecting with people on a deep level and embracing other people’s feelings. He is very sensitive but also offers firm guidance and support. Thanks to Paul, I got over the most difficult part of my life relatively quickly.‘

A. – UK
April, 2014

‘Dear Paul

I am sorry for dropping out of contact. Usual story im afraid was the initial reason for my dissapearing. However i have since recovered and am currently in a beautiful space in my life-exercising and medititating regualrly and eating well which is keeping me strong and not putting too much pressure on myself or demanding so much. I seem to have come to peace with the power of patience and small slow changes

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I am all in all very happy at the moment. I use a diary to reflect on my thoughts and i am no longer so perfectionist about myself or my relationships with others.

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Anyway the point of this was not to show off but to a) reconnect and b) to express my deep gratitude for your patience, care and attention through a very difficult time in my life. I feel that your counsel was an invaluable and crucial part of my recovery.

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Through your counseling i learned that to be honest, gentle and forgiving with myself is the path to happiness. Above all what i will remember and always be grateful for was your emphasis on authenticity.

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I also feel that through your counsel i was able to accept a part of myself (sexual shame, frustration and guilt) that had been long buried within me. It was a heavy burden to carry and i feel so much lighter for having put it down. So thank you again

And i am sorry again for all the times i messed you around and left you hanging. Ot was selfish behaviour and i feel it. Ultimately i feel our connection as an honest friendship so i feel the same guilt as if i had let down a close friend.

You are more than welcome in Swaziland anytime as long as i am here I will do my best to accommodate and welcome you if you ever come to this part of the world

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Anyway this will not be the last time we speak I am sure so I will stop here. If I begin to slip again and do not feel I can find support elsewhere I will not hesitate to contact you.

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Until the next time we speak though-thank you again for love & care – it has changed my life & I will always be grateful. I wish you love, peace and happiness wherever you are xxx.‘

Adam – Swaziland/Africa
Febuary, 2014

‘Hi Paul :) just a quick message to say, I’m doing great, really happy. **** and I have decided to get married. I know now that I went through a period of deep depression those months ago that I didn’t really recognise or why. Not properly anyway. I can now recognise some of the reasons why that was thanks to what I learnt through our discussions. I continue to read your posts via your website and twitter which are very useful. I hope you are very well. Thanks again for all your insights.‘

A. – UK
June, 2013

‘Last year Paul counselled me for anger issues at work. Recently I had to follow a heavy training of six weeks at work. Because I suffer from social anxiety it was exceptionally difficult for me. I decided to contact Paul again for this acute situation. He gave me the extra support and tips I needed to get through the last week. He was also flexible with the appointments. Now we have stopped counselling again but I know that if the need arises for short or long term counselling that Paul is willing to help.‘

A. – UK
March, 2013

‘For almost year now I have been working with Paul online. Life coaching through instant messenger has been ideal for me as I have travelled for the past 6 months.

I stayed with Paul at his house in Phuket, Thailand, for 3 days. Before I arrived it was slightly daunting meeting Paul in real life i must admit. I felt nervous. I had always opted to talk simply on instant messenger, meaning that it was slightly impersonal as I could carefully choose my words to sound how I liked. I knew that meeting Paul in person would mean he would see me in entirety.

From the very first meeting with Paul I felt completely at ease and cared for. During the 3 days we had only had two sessions. before I arrived I thought that staying with Paul would mean non stop coaching and would be “intense”. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In those two sessions I feel that a lot of ground was covered. The first session was very interesting. having talked to someone online for so long, to know someone, yet have never heard them speak, or seen the way they go about talking and living. From Paul’s point of view i can see that me being in close contact with him on a daily basis helped him understand me more as a person. Paul’s daily routine is one of sanctity and peace, I personally found it very interesting seeing how Paul lives, it made me really look at myself, wonder what Paul was seeing in the way I acted. This introspection coupled with Paul’s greater understanding of my personality made each session leave me with a lot of answers and a lot of questions, but feeling encouraged to carry on with what we are working on myself.

The environment I spent my days in could not of been more conducive to mindfulness. The way Paul lives could not be better to put into practice what we talked about in a counselling session. I felt that my needs were met, we achieved a good balance of interaction and discussion, with time for me to think for myself and relax.

I feel that the increased mutual understanding that me and Paul have for each other now will greatly improve our sessions online in the future. I came away from staying with Paul feeling refreshed. just seeing the every day actions of someone who has worked many years to achieve what he has, and is now helping me, has been invaluable.‘

L. – Traveller
Febuary, 2013

‘I found Paul at a time when I was feeling very low and lost in my life. I even put up barriers to the counselling itself, I felt negative and doubtful about everything. But Paul’s patience and compassion helped me to build a faith in the work that I value immensely. Paul works with what will help you in the here and now, and the sessions can take any path you need them too. If you don’t know the path, he can help you find it.

The work we have done has helped me to build a faith in myself that I never had before and which now guides me through every single day. We have worked through the most difficult time in my life, enabling me to focus and to see things clearly. The clarity I have gained with his help will truly stay with me a lifetime. I have changed my whole way of thinking, from negative to positive. Hard times still happen, but I don’t fall down the black hole.‘

Nell – UK
Febuary, 2013

‘After having struggled for a good four years with anger I took the step to seek counselling for the issues making me so angry and aggressive.

Living in Belgium, a foreign country with a very different culture to mine, I did not want to go see a counsellor locally. This is when I first found Paul’s site.

After the counselling I can honestly say I feel less angry, and have things back under control at work. I used to hate going to work and now sometimes I even want to go to work, the positive sides of my job are in focus.

Paul’s counselling is very strategy based, with me he did not really go delving into the past and dredging up old hurts and things. It was all about now and how to approach things now.

He is very supportive and understanding as well as flexible when it comes to planning sessions around your budget.‘

A – Belgium
January, 2013

‘My experience of online counselling with Paul has been very positive. I find him accepting, thoughtful, warm and kind as a counsellor – and also very helpful with regard to the technology side.

I really appreciate the opportunity to have some therapeutic support that fits in with my busy lifestyle and have found that online counselling definitely has its advantages.

I found it easy to build an enjoyable working relationship with Paul and I appreciate his care, his expertise and his humanity.‘

A – UK
January, 2013

‘Paul is a compassionate and generous counsellor who lower his fee to an affordable price to help others meet their needs in a humanistic approach. He always listen and have good advice for me when I need guidance. He also help me come to terms with who I am and help me to be confident with my authentic self.

I always became anxious and vulnerable when I went out and had to interact with people in public or even my friends and relative. After about thirty 50 Minute online counselling sessions and a one week intensive counselling with him, I feel a lot better and content in most social situation and being more assertive in a proper way.

Thank you Paul, you will always be my best counsellor, life coach and friend.‘

J. – Thailand
December, 2012

‘Paul’s online counselling was everything I hoped it would be and nothing I was worried it might be… Very pragmatic and to the point.‘

John – Thailand
June, 2012

‘Thank you Paul for your expertise and your compassion, I am back on my way again after a major crisis. With your guidance, I found the right road.‘

Jessica – NSW, Australia
June, 2012

‘Absolute gem to find such a service online. I was living overseas and needed some help to work through a tough junction in my life. Being online my location was never a problem and the online counselling helped guide me, rather than direct me, based on reassuring my own thoughts that only needed help to remain surfaced and to be actioned. Seagulls are cool as well…… but why, well you may or may not need to know. Thanks a million, see you flying someday soon.

Cheers,‘

Bev – New Zealand
April, 2012

‘I came to online counselling with Paul Parkin during a mid life crisis in which I am questioning everything I know about myself. Paul was able to take consideration of all of my concerns and helped to tease out important issues and point out areas that I might explore more to improve myself understanding.

His insights and self disclosure were concise and relevant. His precision of addressing particular concerns was very skilful as I felt overwhelmed with the number of issues I had to address. Within 5-6 sessions I made some major changes in my life that honour my authentic and ever developing self.

There is not an area of my life that we did not touch on from sexuality to childhood to personality to the roles I play to today including my self care and my spirituality. Working with Paul has been a worthwhile investment on many levels.

I think individuals new to counselling or those who have been in counselling for long periods might benefit as he seems to be an accurate insightful guide who follows the pace one is at. I say this having many years of experience with counselling myself.‘

A. – UK
January, 2012

‘I first came to Paul for his help with bereavement counselling after the death of a close family member, I had always been a very strong person and was shocked at how internally I had been so affected by it. I didn’t want to talk to someone that I might bump into in the street and so started to look for an online counsellor.

When I first came across Paul and counsellors online I very sceptically tried his services as I figured even if it was rubbish I had only lost a little and wouldn’t contact him again. How wrong I was, even after my first session in 2011 I realised Paul was very good at his job and working at my own pace felt comfortable very slowly opening up to him, I continued for a while with the bereavement counselling, then decided that I wanted 2012 to be a very much better and different year for me than before, so I decided to invest in myself and work on myself with Paul’s help, I have now been through most of the issues I have experienced in my life to include work and relationships, I am now working on moving forward in a new and more positive way and changing my mind set on life for the better.

Friends and family have commented on how much happier and more positive I am and the little things don’t worry me as much and I know that I can handle future big things with more confidence. I didn’t know before that I had low self-esteem which contributed to some of my issues but once you are aware of something you can change it for the better. I still have a way to go before I really feel I will have reached where I want to be but I am further to the end than the beginning, and once I feel I am finished I know I can always come back to Paul should I need help in the future. I finally feel like I am getting “me” back, and feel like I have a friend helping me who wont judge or say things because he thinks he should, Paul is always honest in the nicest way he can be.

I would say to anyone considering, just try a few sessions and see how you get on, it could literally change your life like it has for me so it’s got to be worth a try!‘

Michaela – UK
December, 2011

‘Paul is a caring, compassionate and clearly very experienced counsellor. I have always been dubious about the value of online counselling and was amazed at the changes I was able to implement with just a few sessions under his guidance. I would recommend him to anyone.‘

A. – UK
December, 2011

‘If you have ever felt completely lost, alone, different from everyone around you, not been able to move forward through fear – literally or your own imagination running wild from past or present experiences in your life, not to be able to talk to anyone thinking or knowing they wont understand you or be able to help you in anyway?

That’s exactly how I felt when I decided to do counselling, I searched the website and was drawn to this website counselling sight and i now know from that day forward I made the right choice.

Paul is a fantastic counsellor, supportive, understanding, always there for you, to support and guide you to find the right answers to help you move forward past the block that is holding you back from living the life you dream of living even without you realising that’s what’s happening.

After only a few months sessions once or twice a week I completely turned my life around, I have met a wonderful man, will shortly be living together and have a child on the way. work has become a lot easier for me, I have opened up to people and now have a better working relationship with my colleagues along with good friendships due to the confidence I have found through my sessions with Paul.

Thank you really doesn’t cut it for all Paul has done for me over the past few months, he is a true inspiration, I am so grateful that I have had the chance to have Paul within my life and not just as a counsellor but also a friend.

I would highly recommend Paul to anyone who needs a little bit of support in their lives for whatever reason to move forward and have the life they really want and most definitely deserve, a happy life.‘

Cheryl – UK
November, 2011

‘Counsellors Online is an easily accessible way to address your worries and frustrations. Simple yet effective strategies offered by their counsellor Paul Parkin have done wonders for my messed up life. Thing are definitely better now that I approach life with a new optimism and the help of a true professional who knows human behaviour inside out. Online counselling has been a very powerful and effective way to for me to share. The time I have spent talking to Paul has been a fundemental investment in me, and a tremendous source of

support. The online platform is convenient and accessible. It has given me the privacy, space and time to be completely free, releasing all my inner emotions and thoughts with an experienced rofessional. I have felt completely uninhibited and totally supported in the sharing of my deepest of feelings. To share feels really good, it lifts the burden and it brings hope. I trust Paul implicitly; we have a rapport and a very

close connection. He’s given me unstinting professional support and guidance with great care and dedication. He has been there for me through some of my toughest months.

My work with Paul is ongoing and I am delighted to say that my dark days of anguish and despair are truly behind me. I am happy, relaxed and peaceful these days. I feel strong and able to cope. In just a few months I have found courage and joy that were always there deep within me and even though it’s not perfect, I love my life!‘

Judy – UK
March, 2011

‘It is not an understatement to say that Paul Parkin has saved my life; he gave me hope when I felt that no hope was left; he showed me a way when I felt lost. I have shared very deep seated and personal problems with Paul and he has always remained entirely non judgemental, compassionate and understanding.

I was not convinced that ‘online counselling’ could ever work effectively and I feared judgement, but Paul has developed a very deep understanding of me and has helped me absolutely immeasurably. He senses when I need reassurance, encouragement and compassion but has also

remained pragmatic, focused and grounded in steering me through some very difficult challenges and taking positive steps forwards.

If you are even thinking about exploring this service, I urge you to try. Paul is a truly gifted counsellor. His compassionate and down to earth personality has helped me through a myriad of problems and has helped separate the wood from the trees.A life changing service.‘

A. – UK
Jan, 2011

‘It is not an understatement to say that Paul Parkin has saved my life; he gave me hope when I felt that no hope was left; he showed me a way when I felt lost. I have shared very deep seated and personal problems with Paul and he has always remained entirely non judgemental, compassionate and understanding.

I was not convinced that ‘online counselling’ could ever work effectively and I feared judgement, but Paul has developed a very deep understanding of me and has helped me absolutely immeasurably. He senses when I need reassurance, encouragement and compassion but has also

remained pragmatic, focused and grounded in steering me through some very difficult challenges and taking positive steps forwards.

If you are even thinking about exploring this service, I urge you to try. Paul is a truly gifted counsellor. His compassionate and down to earth personality has helped me through a myriad of problems and has helped separate the wood from the trees.A life changing service.‘

A. – UK
Jan, 2011

‘Counsellors Online is an easily accessible way to address your worries and frustrations. Simple yet effective strategies offered by their counsellor. Paul Parkin have done wonders for my messed up life. Thing are definitely better now that I approach life with a new optimism and the help of a true professional who knows human behaviour inside out. A big thank you Paul.‘

Ade W. – UK
Jan, 2011

‘Paul, I just wanted to say Thank You for helping through Christmas and New Year, I am looking forward to continuing our work together. Your strategies and support really did help me through a very tough time.

Best wishes for 2011.‘

S.T. – UK
Jan, 2011

‘Thank you Paul, for getting me through a very tough time, It is always the case that Christmas makes everything feel much worse and hopeless, you help to rationalise things and give me hope. This is the second year you have got me through it. You will never know how much I am in your debt.‘

I.W. – Traveller
December, 2010

‘I was dreading Christmas after such a hard year, I decided that I needed help and how easy it was to first find an online counsellor and then to work with a sympathetic professional like Paul. My sessions are continuing but I seriously may not have been here without counsellors-online. many thanks for your easy to understand and insightful little gems of knowledge and understanding.‘

A. – UK
December, 2010

‘Counsellors-Online is a safe and effective method of working through life’s mess. Paul Parkin helped me to tidy my life and sort it into manageable boxes, a very easy strategy with incredible results.

Many thanks, Paul.’

Gloria H. – UK
December, 2010

‘At Counsellors Online I found answers to many long protracted problems, issues that have hindered my life for many years. Paul is a genius at his profession and I cannot ever thank him enough.

God Bless.‘

Art W. – UK
November, 2010

‘Counsellor’s Online is a wonderful place to find your self and to travel the road accompanied by a caring professional. Paul is empathic and knowledgeable in all areas of the human conditions.‘

Mark T. – UK
September, 2010

‘His articles at ezinearticles.com was where I discovered Paul’s Online Counselling service, I began with a certain skepticism but was soon to see that his blend of professionalism and caring was to help me make relatively simple changes to my thinking, which has resulted in major plus factors in my life. All this from working with a counsellor online. Simply incredible. Thank you so very much Paul.‘

Virginia R. – Thailand
September, 2010

‘I’ve been working with Paul over the last couple of months and can honestly say that it’s been a great

experience. He’s provided me with the tools and thinking methods to propel me forward and convert my

life into a 100% positive experience. His approach and methods are truly practical and very effective.

Paul has a natural and caring demeanor that puts you at ease immediately, facilitating a great online counselling relationship where you can truly open up and work through any issues. Thanks to the work with Paul, I feel like what has been a stressful year for me where I couldn’t see any positives amongst the despair, has now been completely turned around. I can’t thank Paul enough for helping me turn my life around completely.‘

C. – UK
September, 2010

‘Thanks Paul for helping me to feel alive again.‘

Billy F. – UK
August, 2010

‘Counsellors Online has helped me to find a way forward through depression an anxiety. The mental illnesses were crippling me and almost had me thinking the unthinkable. A BIG thank you to Paul for his expert insights and his compassion. My work is ongoing but I am already looking forward to each new day, rather than dreading it.‘

Soph – UK
August, 2010

‘Counsellors-Online is a fantastic website full of free information and advice. Apart from that the online counsellor is incredible, he talks sense and gets to the bottom of things very quickly. My work on me continues but no longer alone.‘

A. – UK
July, 2010

‘I found Paul’s counselling website when I searched Google for “Cognitive Behaviour Therapist”. I must say that Paul’s eclectic approach is easy to understand and provides insights which offer short term solutions to long term issues. My work and journey is ongoing but I feel I am in Paul’s safe hands.‘

M.P. – England
June, 2010

‘From Paul’s reply to my first long email it was obvious that he had taken the time to read and think about what I wrote. His reply was thoughtful, yet to the point. It was not full of waffle and jargon. Whether Paul is aware of this or not, his reply contains little phrases which to me were meaningful and memorable. What is more he is prepared to give of himself. Thank you Paul, you helped me a lot in a short space of time.‘

A. – England
April, 2010

‘Well, what can I say, I would like to thank Paul Parkin from the bottom of my heart for all his help and

support.

Put simply, he gets me! I found Paul online at one of the lowest points of my life so far, although

I have lived through may crises before that point, I simply couldn’t see a way forward and in truth I don’t

know how I would have got through Christmas without him.

Its now March and my life is entirely different which is mainly down to the choices that I have made with Paul’s help. It feels like he has given me permission to live again, and I know he will I say I gave myself permission, but without him hearing me and validating my thoughts and feelings I would never have moved forward and discovered the real person within, just waiting to be set free.

I am still working with Paul, and I appreciate that what has taken a lifetime to learn, cannot be undone overnight, but I know that with Paul’s help I will get there. I am already a happier person, more confident and I worry less in the short time we have been working together. So thank you Paul, you are and will continue to be a shining star.‘

D. – UK
March, 2010

‘Amazing, professional, experienced and human. Much gratitude Paul, thanks for accompanying me on this trek along life’s highway. You were truly an inspiration and guru isn’t too big a word for you.‘

Malcy E. – UK
January, 2010

‘What a journey – its great to be alive. Thank you Paul Parkin for helping me break the chains of my past.‘

H.F. – UK
December, 2009

‘Online Life Coaching is a great service, the coach here is full of practical advice to help with any problem. My own issues were resolved in a very short time (12 sessions). Many thanks Paul.‘

Willy Stevens – UK
December, 2009

‘Paul Parkin is an outstanding online counsellor, I have worked with him for the past Three months, his clarity and knowledge of neurological function is delicately mixed with a wonderful human spirit. My life will never be the same again.

Thank you Paul, you have given me a life again. I will always be indebted to you.‘

Jordan S. – England
November, 2009

‘One and travelling the world can be a lonely and isolating life, thank you for being at the touch of a button, you offer a truly wonderful service. It is great to know that from anywhere in the world I can get to communicate with you and beam pearls of wisdom to help me on my way.‘

Jonathan H. – Traveller
October, 2009

‘Incredible, insightful, talented, and wholesome – just some of the words i would use to describe the counsellor here. A great tonic for anyone who is lost. many thanks for walking beside me.‘

Annie H. – Traveller
July, 2009

‘Many thanks Paul, you are wonderful. This was a totally safe way to get the support and confidence to enable Sara to come into her own. You not only helped me, but you helped my partner too, all of which seemed impossible a few weeks ago.

I will always feel honored to have shared it all with you and to have felt so real chatting with you, I no longer feel like two separate people, just whole and complete.

Many, many thanks.’

Sara – UK
July, 2009

‘After completing counselling and some coaching over the past 3 months I am now ready to take what my teacher has taught me on my own journey, though I will never feel alone. Much has been learned from you. You have a wonderful gift, you made me believe in me.‘

Andy F. – UK
July, 2009

‘I did not quite understand it the first time I read “Sometimes when we lose-we win” but i now realise that i have the rest of my life to live, and i have learned finally how to live it. I will always remember the

teachings and the unconditional support you have given me in order that i can once again be whole. You are truly an inspiration.‘

M. O’ Hare – Ireland
July, 2009

‘A beautiful light has been switched on in my life, the darkness is a memory and the new skills I have been taught are the guiding path. No words can convey my gratitude to you.‘

Sarri – USA
June, 2009

‘Life has been a continual battle for me since my early years, not having the right preparation makes it difficult, this service and the insight of the therapist has helped me to accept the things I cannot change and given me the strength to change the things I can change. There is some way to go but I have hope for the first time in my life, what a wonderful feeling HOPE is.‘

M.W.T. – UK
May, 2009

‘After six coaching sessions I now see the misjudgments of my past, I am learning to forgive myself and other’s and move forward to a better place. Thank you.‘

S. – USA
April, 2009

‘I have worked with a life coach in the past, however a life coach who is also an experienced counsellor is by far more helpful. I think there is overlap in relation to the insight you have been able to offer me using all of your skills, and I can already see some of the things I am doing wrong. Thank you Paul.‘

Sue T. – UK
March, 2009

‘In only two online life coach sessions, I have begun to make changes to my life which have already seen a marked improvement. The clarity and the wisdom offered by my coach is amazing. I am unlearning all the crap that has held me back for so long. I cannot wait for my next session.‘

Elaine T. – USA
March, 2009

‘After making a series of long and painful relationship choices, I decided to ask for help. Paul helped me to see where I was going wrong in the type of men I was attracted to. He also helped me to understand why I was attracted to losers. I am working on my self now in order to make better choices in the future. Life

coaching has helped me to feel and do better with the life I want!‘

E.H. – USA
March, 2009

‘The usual depression signs and it is hell and difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Seen several doctors during my life time and finally they said I had bi polar and put me on lithium which helped me a great deal. At the moment I am on a low dosage and also take an anti depressant. I was OK for a while but now even on the meds I have gone down again but not as down as before….I can cope. I am hoping this phase will lift soon. I need to come back to you soon Paul.‘

A. – UK
March, 2009

‘I have never tried counselling and thought that it might be a good idea so I am looking forward to talking to Paul. I am sure that he might be able to help me. All the best to the people out there that are suffering with depression, it is horrible, but there is a light an the end of the tunnel (my favourite expression) and you will beat this and learn how to manage it. I am on the way to doing this but it has taken me a while. Never give up!

Take Care.‘

J. – UK
March, 2009

‘Paul after reading your excellent article on ezinearticles I just wanted to say that the prospect of

working with you is one I look forward to roll on Monday when I hope to eventually move forward.‘

A. – USA
Febuary, 2009

‘Thank you Mr. Paul, i would never have dreamed that in six sessions you helped me to move on from years of heartache. You are just incredible.‘

R.S. Weiner – UK
Febuary, 2009

‘It was so timely to find your excellent service on facebook, I had big problems but reading the information on your website has helped so much. Looking forward to my session with you Paul.‘

A.W. – UK
January, 2009

‘Our work together has changed my life, as said before THANK YOU will never be enough.‘

Penny – UK
December, 2008

‘Well I was a skeptic until we chatted, your common sense techniques for parenting were beyond my comprehension until now. How could I have got it so wrong! My relationship with my little horrors has been turned around in a few weeks.‘

Happy Mom & Family – UK
November, 2008

‘You are so enlightened, cheers, what a wonderful service and counsellor.‘

A.D.F. – UK
July, 2008

‘Paul I have recommended you to a relative as talking to you helped me see things so much more clearly and even my friends noticed a change in that i was more confident and happy.‘

L. – UK
March, 2008

‘Paul has been such a huge help to me these past few weeks. He has listened & not judged. He has guided & encouraged me & shown me a way to change the ingrained patterns of my past. Patterns shaped when I was small by abuse & rejection. I am now choosing to react differently to situations.

It is not easy but I am beginning to understand myself and others more and to value myself. The road is just beginning but Paul has really set me on the right track & I will definitely come back to use his expertise again in the future if I feel I need it. ‘Thank you’ doesn’t really cover it as a phrase!‘

Reby – UK
August, 2007

‘A really useful service, counselling online is a much easier method than face to face counselling.

Professional, effective and inspiring, at a reasonable cost.

Thanks Paul.‘

M.H. – UK
July, 2007