Lets start with how you may be feeling after being told or discovering that the boy or man you thought you knew is wearing women’s clothes or Cross-Dressing:
Shocked and disgusted that he is doing this?
Hearing or discovering that a boy or man close to you is wearing women’s clothes is bound to come as a shock, this subject is shrouded in secrecy, but its actually very common. Most boys and men who Cross-Dress are not gay, bisexual, perverted or strange, they simply have an obsession or need to dress as a female, this is more than likely as much a shock to them as it is to you and they have very little control over their desire, or need to do it.
They don’t choose it and many boys and men will have tried everything not to do it. They have and probably still do have issues about it themselves. They are not crazy and they don’t have a mental illness just because they Cross-Dress, but it may be causing them, as well as you, unbearable stress, so you are all probably suffering.
Feeling that you don’t know him at all?
It is usual for people to think that because this seems unusual behaviour, that everything about him is a lie, it’s not all a lie. You have to understand that this person is the same person you love, he just has some behaviour that feels scary and unreal right now.
Because of how this subject is perceived by many, it can be very difficult to find the courage to share it with someone, so try not to feel that everything is different, he is still the person you love and he needs your support and help more than ever.
Scared he is not normal or has an illness?
You are bound to be scared and worried, that is completely normal. Cross-Dressing very common, we just don’t hear about it until it’s close to us. It probably due to high levels of the female hormone Estrogen, but research is inconclusive, some experts believe that boys and men who Cross-Dress may have been conditioned, surrounded by females or treat like a girl, personally I feel that this is a genetic issue. It is not an illness or anything that requires medical treatment.
Worried he is gay?
This is a very common worry, but most Cross-Dressers are heterosexual (straight) and have no interest in having sex with other men, or for that matter other women. Wearing the clothes is something that helps them connect with their feminine side (remember the Estrogen hormone) Cross-Dressing is not a sexual thing for most men.
Worried he doesn’t love you or fancy you?
He is with you and we will do all we can to make your relationship strong enough to deal with this. For most Cross-Dressers, there is no sexual pleasure in dressing. You are going to have hundreds of fears and thoughts, most of which will not be valid, you are almost certainly in shock as you are reading this and it will take a little time to get the answers and to understand exactly what is happening.
You can talk to me alone or together and I will help you answer the questions, maybe I can ask them on your behalf, I can certainly share the questions which women usually have on this subject.