Dealing with Disturbing Desires: How to Prevent Harmful Actions of Sexual Offences and Taboo Sex.

In today’s digital age, it’s essential to understand the wide range of sexual offences outlined in the 2003 Sexual Offences Act in the UK, as well as those in various jurisdictions worldwide.

The internet has revolutionised how people explore their sexual fantasies, making it easier for both men and women to delve into their desires and fantasies. However, this newfound accessibility can sometimes lead to individuals unintentionally committing sexual offences.

If you find yourself in a situation where you’ve been questioned, charged, or convicted of a sexual offence, it’s natural to feel isolated and abandoned. You may fear that those close to you will distance themselves due to the nature of these issues.

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During such challenging times, seeking help and support is crucial. Online counseling provides an effective, completely confidential, and convenient way to discuss your concerns and fears surrounding sexual behaviours.

You don’t have to face this journey alone, I can provide an empathetic ear and practical advice and support.

If you’re worried about your sexual thoughts or fantasies, talk to me in confidence, I don’t work with anyone else and our communication will be 100% confidential.

I don’t work with any governing bodies, I work alone, and no notes of our correspondence will be kept, this is 100% confidential and private.

Sexual offenses are actions or behaviors that involve sex but are against the law because they harm or violate someone else. These actions can include things like touching someone inappropriately without their consent, forcing someone to have sex when they don’t want to, or looking at explicit pictures of people without their permission.

Sexual offenses are considered crimes because they hurt people emotionally or physically, and they are taken very seriously by the law.

It’s important to treat others with respect and get clear permission before doing anything of a sexual nature to make sure it’s consensual and legal.

Here are some examples of sexual offenses:

Rape: Forcing someone to have sexual intercourse against their will.

Sexual Assault: Unwanted sexual touching, groping, or fondling without the person’s consent.

Sexual Harassment: Making unwelcome sexual advances, comments, or gestures that create a hostile or intimidating environment.

Child Sexual Abuse: Involves any sexual activity with a minor, which is illegal because minors cannot legally give consent.

Voyeurism: Secretly watching or photographing someone in a private or intimate situation without their knowledge or consent.

Indecent Exposure: Exposing one’s genitals in a public place or to someone without their consent.

Sexual Exploitation: Taking advantage of someone sexually, often for financial gain or personal pleasure, through coercion or manipulation.

Child Pornography: Creating, possessing, or distributing sexually explicit images of minors.

Stalking: Repeated and unwanted pursuit or harassment of someone, often with a sexual element.

Non-consensual Sharing of Intimate Images (Revenge Porn): Distributing explicit images or videos of someone without their consent, typically after a breakup.

Sexual Trafficking: Forcing or coercing individuals into prostitution or other forms of sexual exploitation.

It’s important to note that the specific definitions and penalties for sexual offenses can vary from one jurisdiction to another, but these examples provide a general idea of the types of behaviors that are considered sexual offenses. Sexual offenses are illegal because they violate a person’s right to consent and can cause physical or emotional harm.

If you’re worried that your sexual fantasies might be turning into something more than just thoughts, or if you’ve acted on them in ways that make you uneasy, it’s important to know that there’s help available. Talking to an Online Therapist can provide a safe space for you to discuss your concerns.

Sexual Fantasies and Actions

Most sexual fantasies are entirely normal and exist only in our minds, causing no harm. However, sometimes these fantasies can become overpowering, and we may feel a strong urge to act them out with a partner or secretly turn them into reality. This can be a concern, especially if the fantasies involve things that are considered ‘taboo.’

Taboo Sexual Desires

Some sexual behaviors fall outside of what society and the law consider normal. People with taboo sexual fantasies may feel isolated and afraid of their desires. It’s okay to seek help and understanding. I offer a confidential way to explore your feelings and worries without the fear of judgment, no matter what your sexual fantasies or behaviors may be. Remember, seeking help is a brave and responsible step toward finding solutions and support for your concerns.

I’m not a lawyer, but I can offer some general guidance on how to approach a situation if you have been caught in a sexual offense case. It’s essential to consult with a legal professional who can provide advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Here are some general steps to consider:

Seek Legal Representation: Contact a criminal defense solicitor/legal representative immediately. They can provide legal guidance, assess your case, and represent your interests throughout the legal process.

Understand Your Rights: familiarise yourself with your legal rights, such as the right to remain silent and the right to a solicitor/legal representative. Do not make any statements to the police or others without your solicitor/legal representative present.

Cooperate with Your solicitor/legal representative: Be honest and open with your solicitor/legal representative about the details of your case. They need accurate information to provide you with the best defense.

Stay Calm and Composed: Legal processes can be emotionally challenging. It’s essential to remain composed and not take matters into your own hands.

Gather Evidence: Work with your solicitor/legal representative to collect evidence that can support your defense. This might include witness statements, documents, or any other relevant information.

Prepare for Court: If your case goes to trial, your solicitor/legal representative will help you prepare for court appearances, including how to testify and handle cross-examination.

Consider Rehabilitation: Depending on the circumstances, rehabilitation programs may be available that can help address the underlying issues leading to the offense. Your solicitor/legal representative can advise you on this.

Respect Legal Orders: If the court imposes any restrictions or orders, such as restraining orders, probation, or parole, make sure to comply with them fully.

Maintain Privacy: Be cautious about discussing your case with anyone other than your solicitor/legal representative, as statements can be used against you.

Emotional Support: Seek emotional support from friends, family, support groups, or a certified therapist. Dealing with legal proceedings can be stressful, and having a support system is essential.

Remember that every case is unique, and outcomes can vary widely. It’s crucial to rely on the expertise of your solicitor/legal representative to navigate the legal process effectively.

I offer a confidential Online Counselling service for people who are experiencing anxiety, stress or guilt as a result of a Sexual Offence or for what might be considered Taboo Sex, or for any Sexual Behaviour which is of concern to you. Online Counselling is an ideal medium for people who are scared and are worried about who to trust.

For the most part, previous clients have talked about their sexual compulsions or their fears as a result of their sexual compulsion, many contact me prior to being charged with a Sexual Offence and want help to understand their sexual behaviour, whilst others need support once something has gone wrong, or they have already been charged with committing a Sexual Offence, either way Online Counselling or Online Therapy as its referred to in some parts of the world, can help people come to terms with and feel supported during what can be a very difficult time.

Online Therapy and Counselling sessions are 50 minutes and are usually via messaging apps or in some cases via a telephone or video call, whichever medium you feel comfortable with.

You don’t have to give your full name or location; this will mean that I will not be able to share your information without your specific permission. I will respect your confidentiality and offer you the care and support which is offered to all of my clients.

Sexual offences counseling is a special type of therapy for people who have done sexual things that are against the law or might do them. The main goals are to prevent it from happening again, help the person change, and make sure they don’t hurt anyone else.

Here’s what happens in sexual offences counseling:

Assessment: At the beginning, the therapist talks to the person to understand their past, what might have caused these behaviors, and what exactly they did wrong. This helps make a plan for therapy.

Individual Therapy: Most of the time, the person talks one-on-one with a therapist. They can share their thoughts and feelings in a private and safe place. The therapist helps them understand why they did what they did and how to avoid doing it again.

Group Therapy: Sometimes, the person joins a group where others who did similar things talk together. It can help them feel less alone and learn from others’ experiences.

Learning: People in this therapy learn about how their actions affect others, what they did wrong, and what the law says about it.

Skills: The therapist teaches them skills to control their emotions and avoid situations that might lead to bad actions. This can include learning how to manage anger or showing more empathy.

Avoiding Relapse: They also learn how to stop themselves from doing those harmful things again. Therapists help them plan to avoid risky situations and handle tough times.

Understanding Victims: It’s crucial for them to understand the harm they caused to others. The therapist helps them see the pain they might have caused and accept responsibility.

Following the Law: They also learn what they need to do legally, like following probation or parole rules.

Every person’s situation is different, so the therapy’s length and intensity can vary. But research shows that this type of therapy can help people change and reduce the chances of doing harmful things again.

I’m Paul Parkin – A therapist and life coach. This is why you should work with me:

Paul Parkin Online CounsellorI’ve helped many people who have unusual sexual thoughts understand why they have these feelings. I’ve also explained the laws about these thoughts and how they can hurt others. I’ve taught them ways to control these feelings and not act on them. It’s important for them to know that having these thoughts doesn’t make them bad as long as they don’t do anything harmful. Through our work, they’ve learned to feel better, let go of guilt and stress, and live happier lives.

What some of my recent clients have said about our work together.

I can’t express how grateful I am for the help I received. Before starting, I was living with the weight of my past actions, feeling lost and ashamed. Paul helped me understand why I did what I did and gave me tools to control my impulses. I learned about the consequences of my actions on others, which was eye-opening.

Through the counseling, I realised that having certain thoughts didn’t make me a bad person, as long as I didn’t act on them. It was like a heavy burden lifted off my shoulders. I no longer felt consumed by guilt, shame, or anxiety.

Today, I’m in a much better place emotionally and mentally. I’ve not only avoided repeating my mistakes but have also started building a brighter future for myself.

This counselling gave me the support and guidance I needed to move forward in life, free from the past’s weight. I can’t thank Paul enough for helping me regain control and find happiness again.

Bob. UK.
July 2022.

Seeking help through sexual offenses counseling was a turning point in my life. I had been carrying the secret of my past actions for far too long, and it was eating me up inside. When I finally reached out to Paul, I was scared and uncertain about what lay ahead.

Paul was incredibly understanding and non-judgmental. He helped me explore the reasons behind my actions and provided me with strategies to manage my impulses. Learning about the legal consequences and the impact on others was very difficult but necessary.

Paul also taught me that having certain thoughts doesn’t define my worth as a person. It allowed me to let go of the heavy burden of guilt and shame that had been haunting me for years.

Since then, I’ve been committed to making amends and avoiding repeating my mistakes. Paul empowered me to transform my life positively.

Today, I’m living a happier and more fulfilling life, free from the anxiety and guilt that used to hold me back.

I’m immensely grateful for the support and guidance Paul offered me.

Sarah. USA.
April 2021.

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