Dealing with Disturbing Desires: Help and Support for Adults with an attraction to Minors, or an interest in Taboo.

It’s a topic which creates a lot of feelings, discomfort and anger. Adults who are attracted to minors find it very difficult to speak about with anyone because of these reactions, making the issue very difficult to speak about, many people contact me, wondering and agonising over the question, why am I attracted to minors?

Whilst the answer to this question is not fully understood, what is key, is that minor attracted people, have someone they can speak about it with in confidence without fear of risk.

Many men and women who are attracted to minors, could benefit from speaking about their desires, however, many have nowhere to go for support. I want to support the men, women and young people who would otherwise go unsupported.

A picture of an adult who is attracted to minors.

I work alone from home, I don’t keep any notes, and I don’t belong to any governing body, which means that our conversation about your attraction to children/minors, whether via voice or video call, will be completely confidential and 100% secure, guaranteed.

People with an attraction to minor’s have found that being able to speak about their desires, helps keep them safe and keeps children safe. Thoughts are only thoughts and if I can help you by listening and supporting you to better manage your desires, then I am happy to help.

If you’re worried or concerned that you may act on your desires in relation to children or minors, then please reach out, I can help.

If you have acted on your desires and need support in order to not repeat your behaviour, I can support you. If you need support whilst going through the a legal process, I can support you. I believe that offering a listening ear to people who are worried about their desires for minors or children, is the right thing to do.

During challenging times, seeking help and support is important, isolation never makes things easier. Online counseling provides an effective, completely confidential, and convenient way to discuss your concerns and fears surrounding a sexual attraction to minors.

You don’t have to face this journey alone, I can provide an empathetic ear and practical advice and support.

If you’re worried about your sexual thoughts or fantasies, talk to me in confidence, I don’t work with anyone else and our communication will be 100% confidential.

I don’t work with any governing bodies, I work alone, and no notes of our correspondence will be kept, this is 100% confidential and private.

Rape: Forcing someone to have sexual intercourse against their will.

Sexual Assault: Unwanted sexual touching, groping, or fondling without the person’s consent.

Sexual Harassment: Making unwelcome sexual advances, comments, or gestures that create a hostile or intimidating environment.

Adult’s with a sexual attraction to a minor: Involves any sexual activity with a minor, which is illegal because minors cannot legally give consent.

Voyeurism: Secretly watching or photographing someone in a private or intimate situation without their knowledge or consent.

Indecent Exposure: Exposing one’s genitals in a public place or to someone without their consent.

Sexual Exploitation: Taking advantage of someone sexually, often for financial gain or personal pleasure, through coercion or manipulation.

Child Pornography: Creating, possessing, or distributing sexually explicit images of minors.

Stalking: Repeated and unwanted pursuit or harassment of someone, often with a sexual element.

Non-consensual Sharing of Intimate Images (Revenge Porn): Distributing explicit images or videos of someone without their consent, typically after a breakup.

Sexual Trafficking: Forcing or coercing individuals into prostitution or other forms of sexual exploitation.

It’s important to note that the specific definitions and penalties for sexual offenses can vary from one jurisdiction to another, but these examples provide a general idea of the types of behaviors that are considered sexual offenses. Sexual offenses are illegal because they violate a person’s right to consent and can cause physical or emotional harm.

The reason why some Men, Women and Young people are attracted sexually to minors or children, isn’t fully understood. What usually happens, it that these people can’t turn to anyone for support, until they have acted on their desires, and something has gone very badly wrong.

There is little to no support for people attracted to minors and I want to support this group of people, so that they can remain safe and better manage their desires and urges.

If you’re worried that your sexual fantasies might be turning into something more than just thoughts, or if you’ve acted on them in ways that make you uneasy, it’s important to know that there’s help available. Talking with me can provide a safe space for you to discuss your concerns.

Sexual Fantasies and Actions

Most sexual fantasies are entirely normal and exist only in our minds, causing no harm. However, sometimes these fantasies can become overpowering, and we may feel a strong urge to act them out, or secretly turn them into reality. This can be a concern, especially if the fantasies involve things that are considered taboo, or involve a minor.

Taboo Sexual Desires

Some sexual behaviors fall outside of what society and the law consider appropriate. People with taboo sexual fantasies often feel completely isolated and afraid of their desires. It’s okay to seek help and understanding. I offer a confidential way to explore your feelings and worries without the fear of judgment, no matter what your sexual fantasies are, I have already heard most, if not all. Remember, seeking help is a responsible step toward finding solutions and support for your concerns.

I’m not a lawyer, but I can suggest some general guidance on how to approach a situation if you are involved in a sexual offence case. It’s essential to consult with a qualified legal professional who can provide specialised advice, tailored to your specific circumstances.

Seek Legal Representation: Contact a criminal defense solicitor/legal representative immediately. They can provide legal guidance, assess your case, and represent your interests throughout the legal process.

Understand Your Rights: familiarise yourself with your legal rights, such as the right to remain silent and the right to a solicitor/legal representative. Do not make any statements to the police or others without your solicitor/legal representative present.

Cooperate with Your solicitor/legal representative: Be honest and open with your solicitor/legal representative about the details of your case. They need accurate information to provide you with the best defense.

Stay Calm and Composed: Legal processes can be emotionally challenging. It’s essential to remain composed and not take matters into your own hands.

Gather Evidence: Work with your solicitor/legal representative to collect evidence that can support your defense. This might include witness statements, documents, or any other relevant information.

Prepare for Court: If your case goes to trial, your solicitor/legal representative will help you prepare for court appearances, including how to testify and handle cross-examination.

Consider Rehabilitation: Depending on the circumstances, rehabilitation programs may be available that can help address the underlying issues leading to the offense. Your solicitor/legal representative can advise you on this.

Respect Legal Orders: If the court imposes any restrictions or orders, such as restraining orders, probation, or parole, make sure to comply with them fully.

Maintain Privacy: Be cautious about discussing your case with anyone other than your solicitor/legal representative, as statements can be used against you.

Emotional Support: Seek emotional support from friends, family, support groups, or a certified therapist. Dealing with legal proceedings can be stressful, and having a support system is essential.

Remember that every case is unique, and outcomes can vary widely. It’s crucial to rely on the expertise of your solicitor/legal representative to navigate the legal process effectively.

I offer a confidential Online Counselling service for people who are experiencing anxiety, stress or guilt as a result of an attraction to minors, or for what may be considered taboo, or for any sexual behaviour which is of concern to you. Online Counselling is an ideal medium for people who are scared and are worried about who to trust.

For the most part, previous clients have talked about their sexual compulsions, or their fears as a result of their sexual desires, many contact me prior to being charged with a sexual offence and want help to understand their sexual fantasies or behaviours, whilst others need support before something has gone wrong. Either way online counselling can help people come to terms with and feel supported during what can be a very difficult time.

My main goal is to offer support to people who find it difficult to speak about their compulsion to anyone else. Rest assured, there won’t be any recorded details, you don’t need to share your real identity. The content of our voice, or video call, will be completely confidential and deleted after each session.

I’m Paul Parkin – A therapist and life coach. This is why you should work with me:

Paul Parkin Online CounsellorI’ve helped many people who have unusual sexual thoughts understand why they have these feelings. I’ve also explained the laws about these thoughts and how they can hurt others. I’ve taught them ways to control these feelings and not act on them. It’s important for them to know that having these thoughts doesn’t make them bad as long as they don’t do anything harmful. Through our work, they’ve learned to feel better, let go of guilt and stress, and live happier lives.

What some of my recent clients have said about our work together.

I contacted Paul from a non identifying email which I had set up, I was very worried about sharing my sexual attraction to minors and children.

After reading Paul’s webpage, he sounded like someone who may listen and not judge, I was right, he helped me to explore my desires and never once judged me, he was able, from his experience of working with children, to help me understand a different perspective.

Being able to speak about being attracted to minors, in a safe and secure way has really helped reduce the burden of stress and anxiety and I feel less inclined to act on my desires.

A must for anyone feeling as isolated as I was.

Anonymous. UK.
March 2024.

I was desperate to speak with someone about being attracted to minors, but was terrified I’d be judged or reported for my affliction.

I am pleased to say that I could speak openly and in total confidence with Paul and I am now assured that I had no need to worry about his confidential approach to supporting people like myself, who have nowhere else to turn for support with this issue.

Paul helped me to better understand my desires for minors and how to keep myself and others safe. Thank you.

Anonymous. US.
December 2023.

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