Issues with food, eating disorders and illnesses
Food and eating disorders or illnesses are often caused by deep rooted emotional feelings and self beliefs. Low worth and self esteem play a part in why people use food to try to control aspects of their lives.
We all vary in the foods we like, how much we want and need to eat, and when we like to eat.
Food is essential for our health, development and our well-being both physically and emotionally.
We all tend to comfort eat at times of stress or sadness.
It’s not unusual to experiment with different eating habits, for example we may decide to become a vegetarian or try changing our diet to improve our health. However, some eating patterns can be damaging and dangerous to our health, eating disorders are closely linked to severe emotional issues.
Anorexia, bulimia and binge eating are very damaging illnesses and require specialist psychological help, Understanding the deep rooted beliefs that someone with an eating issue holds is essential to helping to get the behaviour under control.
Eating Disorders and getting help
Problems with Food can begin when food is used to cope with those times when you are either bored, anxious, angry, lonely, ashamed or sad. How we eat food may become a problem when it is used to help us to cope with painful situations or emotions, or to relieve stress perhaps without us even realising it.
It is unlikely that an eating disorder will result from a single cause. It is much more likely to be a combination of many factors, events, feelings or pressures which lead to you feeling unable to cope or feel in control of your life.
These can include:
- Low Self-Esteem
- Family Relationships
- Problems with Friends
- The Death of someone Special
- Problems at work, college or university pressures
- Lack of confidence
- Sexual or emotional abuse past or present.
- Many people talk about simply feeling too fat, too thin or not good enough.
Often people with an Eating Disorder often feel that their eating disorder is the only way they feel they can stay in control of their life in any way. However as the use of food takes a hold, that control shifts and sufferers can be under the control of food.
You may find that in common with many other people you experience feelings of despair, shame, or body image image issues. You may have a feeling of failure or lack of control because you cannot overcome these feelings about food alone.
Anorexia Nervosa is an eating disorder, typically sufferers often restrict the amount they eat, sometimes this self management of food intake can have dangerous consequences to physical health and emotional wellbeing. Often excessive exercise may go hand in hand with eating to burn off what may be perceived to be excess calories.Read more
Many people with an eating issue focus on food in an attempt to cope or feel in control of their lives, not intending to starve themselves to death. However, the eating disorder itself often takes control and the chemical changes in the body affect the brain and distort thinking, making it almost impossible for people to make rational decisions about food.
As the illness progresses, people may suffer from the exhaustion of starvation. occasionally people die from the effects of anorexia, especially if its untreated. Seeking help from an eating disorder counsellor will help.
Bulimia Nervosa is a condition in which a person has problems in accepting what is considered by most to be normal weight. Binge eating or bingeing followed by self induced vomiting after eating is a characteristic of bulimic behaviours. Some people may also use laxatives or other medication to get food out of their bodies.Read more
Unlike people with Anorexia Nervosa, they may manage to keep a normal body weight but at the cost of a great deal of emotional and physical suffering or discomfort.
People suffering with Bulimia often have a chaotic lifestyle, not only in terms of eating but also in terms of other aspects of their lives. Sufferers of bulimia may be older than sufferers from Anorexia. Many people suffer the symptoms of both conditions, but it is thought that bulimia is over three times more common.
Bulimia – what does it look like?
A person with Bulimia is more likely to be of normal or excessive weight. relatives may notice that he/she disappears to the bathroom after meals and there may be evidence of vomiting or laxative usage, however sufferers often hide their behaviour very well.
Sufferers from bulimia often feel ashamed or guilty, and may have particular difficulty talking to others about themselves or seeking help. You may notice someone throwing up, vomiting, binge eating or unusual eating habits.
Professional and experienced Online Counsellor (Therapist) and Online Life Coach Paul Parkin’s Eating Disorders Counselling experience.
I am an experienced, professional online counsellor, with over 15 years experience working as a counsellor (therapist) and life coach offering confidential, affordable counselling online to clients anywhere in the world.
By living a simple life and working from home I have reduced my costs enabling me to reduce the session fees for clients, making counselling online more accessible to people seeking counselling online.
I have worked in the field of eating disorders counselling and therapy for several years both face to face and online counselling. I have helped Thousands of clients who struggle with food and the subsequent behaviours such as anorexia and bulimia which can affect peoples lives, focusing on the underlying life issues which contribute to food related problems helps clients to learn to live a life free of the debilitating problematic use of food.
I have been successful with the treatment of eating disorders and illnesses and in addressing the underlying issues which is key to the cure of these issues. Most food related issues are a result of unresolved psychological issues from our pasts, I will help clients to find closure to these issues.
Dear online counselor,
Since the death of my brother (we were twins and very, very close) I have been eating minimal amounts of food, I am constantly hungry but choose not to eat, I actually like the pain. Do I have an eating disorder and am i going crazy?
I am sorry about your loss. Losing a twin who you were very, very close to must be very difficult indeed. There is research available which suggests that losing a twin is a more severe grief.
Sometimes when we experience emotional loss and pain, which we feel we cannot control or get over, we try to find something which we can control, often we use food and associated pain to take our minds off the real emotional turmoil.
What you are doing using food is a very successful strategy, but it comes with a high price to pay. So no, you are not going crazy but you should seek help now before your eating habits create damaging physical and psychological health implications.
Working on your grief would be a safer more effective method, because at the moment you are just blocking out your pain with a potentially damaging eating behaviour which could have serious health risks. Please talk to your GP about your health.
My bereavement web page may help you too.
If you would like to work with me on your bereavement, please contact me using the link at the bottom of this page.
My condolences and best wished Harry.
Best wishes Paul, online counsellor (therapist) and online life coach.