Facilitated group, topic based peer discussion/support for cross dressers

This will be a safe, anonymous space, facilitated by myself (Paul Parkin) I’m an experienced therapist and life coach and I have several years experience of facilitating group sessions.

Group users will all be individually invited as a result of one to one sessions, to make sure that each will benefit from being part of the facilitated group discussions.

Anonymity and confidentiality is key. So group user’s will be able to log-in to my own chat platform anonymously without any identifying information being shared with other users.

The group will be type-chat and voice only, to further protect people’s identities.

There will be a set of group rules created to protect people’s identities and create a respectful, safe environment, where men who cross dress can feel supported and part of a community of like-minded individuals and discuss the issues which matter to them.

Various men looking at women clothes.

In this facilitated topic-based support group, you can expect a warm and inclusive atmosphere, where individuals like yourself can come together to discuss some of the challenges, and triumphs of cross dressing.

As an experienced facilitator, I will ensure that conversations are respectful and productive, creating a space where you can feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and worries.

Each facilitated session will focus on a meaningful topic, a variety of topics related to crossdressing, feel free to share what you’d like to explore.

You’ll have the opportunity to connect with others who understand your experiences, providing a sense of belonging and camaraderie.

I will offer guidance and resources, helping you navigate any questions or uncertainties you may have. Whether you’re just starting your journey or have been on it for a while, this group is here to provide support, encouragement, and valuable insights to enhance your crossdressing experience and your sense of self.

Yes, you can be 100% confident that your identity will remain completely anonymous on this platform.

I take your privacy extremely seriously, and I go the extra mile to ensure your safety and security. You’ll receive a screen name, real or fictional, you decide.

Your comfort and peace of mind are my top priorities, so you won’t be required to share any information you’re not comfortable with. Rest assured, your participation in this group session will be entirely anonymous.

This chat room boasts a high level of security, thanks to its reliance on dyte.io, a reputable platform widely adopted by prominent companies across various sectors.

Access to the meeting room is exclusive to individuals who receive an invitation link. You’re only required to provide a screenname, and features like video and private chat have been intentionally disabled. These precautions safeguard your identity and location, allowing you to engage in the group discussion with complete peace of mind.

Absolutely fine, you’re welcome to join and participate without speaking. In this support group, I respect and accommodate individual comfort levels. You can choose to simply listen, observe, and read/listen to the conversations without actively engaging in discussions if that’s what you prefer.

Your presence is valued, and you can participate in a way which feels right for you, whether it’s by actively contributing, or quietly benefiting from the shared experiences and insights of the group.

Absolutely, this will be a safe and welcoming space for you. My primary goal is to create an environment where you can feel comfortable, respected, and supported. I am committed to fostering inclusivity, understanding, and empathy among all participants.

It’s hoped that all group members will offer encouragement, share experiences, and offer support within the group.

Your well-being and safety are of utmost importance to me, and I have guidelines in place to ensure that everyone can participate in a respectful and considerate manner.

You can trust that this will be a secure and affirming space for you to engage and connect with others.

I appreciate your interest in joining the group discussion, and while I would value your participation, I do have a policy that requires individuals to have had one-to-one sessions with me before joining the group.

This policy helps ensure that everyone in the group has a shared foundation and understanding of the topics we discuss. I encourage you to consider scheduling a one-to-one session with me so that you can fully benefit from and contribute to the group discussions in the future. Thank you for your understanding.

The facilitated topic-based group support for crossdressers operates as a collaborative and guided environment where cross dressers come together to share their unique experiences, provide mutual assistance, and gain valuable insights into their shared journey. Here’s how it typically works:

Structured Discussions: The group sessions are structured around a specific topic or theme, related to crossdressing.

As the facilitator, I may introduce a topic or encourage participants to suggest discussion points.

Sharing and Listening: Participants are encouraged to openly share their thoughts, experiences, challenges, and successes related to crossdressing, when they feel comfortable. Active listening is essential, and everyone will have the opportunity to express their perspectives.

Facilitator Guidance: I will facilitate and moderate the discussion to ensure a respectful and supportive atmosphere. I may offer guidance, ask questions to stimulate conversation, and provide additional information or resources specific to the topic being discussed.

Peer Support: Group members provide support to one another by offering encouragement and perspective, based on their own experiences as a crossdresser.

This peer-to-peer support can be incredibly beneficial and break down the sense of isolation and the feeling that you’re the only man in the world who cross dresses.

Anonymity and Privacy: in line with the group’s policy around anonymity and safety, participants will remain anonymous, using screen names or pseudonyms, to ensure a safe and confidential space.

Regular Meetings: Facilitated, group, topic-based support for crossdressers, will consist of regular meetings, (as requested) which in this case will be online.

Consistency helps build trust and allows for ongoing support and growth within the context of crossdressing.

Resource Sharing: Crossdresser‘s may find it useful to share tips and resources, such as clothing brands, makeup products, or style guides, specifically tailored to the needs and preferences of men who dress.

Generally, the facilitated group support for crossdressers offers a platform where individuals with shared experiences can connect, learn, and grow together in a safe and supportive environment, specifically designed to address the unique challenges and interests of crossdressing, but in a safe and secure environment.

If you’d like to participate, or suggest a topic for future discussion, please feel free to contact me.

These rules have been discussed and agreed during a group consultation and discussion, with the sole purpose of creating a safe welcoming space for men who cross dress.

*Your identity and the identity of other participants must remain private/confidential at all times.

*There should be no sharing of full names or any other contact details, or identifying information.

*No side conversations, this feature has been disabled for everyone’s privacy.

*Participants should be respectful and supportive to other group participants, remember, everyone is at a different stage of their personal journey.

*Participants are requested to give everyone within the group, the opportunity to speak and feel heard.

  • ‘The benefits of cross dressing’
  • ‘Cross dressing for the ageing community’
  • ‘How do we see attitudes changing in relation to cross dressing in the coming decade’
  • Cross Dressing. Risk versus Thrill.
  • Cross Dressing. Relationships and Friendships.
  • Fashion and Style Tips: Share fashion trends, clothing styles, and outfit ideas that work well for crossdressers.
  • Sizing and Fit: Discuss how to find the right clothing sizes, including dresses, shoes, and accessories.
  • Makeup Techniques: Explore makeup application techniques, product recommendations, and tips for achieving a more feminine look or the look you are going for.
  • Types of Dressing: Talk about various ways to express your crossdressing, from casual or formal, and different styles you might want to explore.
  • Online Resources: Share websites, forums, and YouTube channels that offer support, tutorials, and inspiration for crossdressers.
  • Mental Health and Well-being: Discuss the emotional aspects of crossdressing, including self-acceptance, coping with stigma, any negative self beliefs and building self-confidence.
  • Coming Out: Share experiences and thoughts on coming out to family, friends, or partners as a crossdresser.
  • Challenges and Discrimination: Address the challenges and discrimination faced by crossdressers, and discuss strategies for dealing with them.
  • Relationships and Dating: Talk about how crossdressing can impact relationships, including communication and dating as a crossdresser.
  • General Discussion: Create an open space for members to share their experiences, questions, and stories related to crossdressing.
  • Fashion Dos and Don’ts: Share tips and warnings about fashion choices, ensuring that everyone feels confident and comfortable.
  • Role Models and Inspirations: Discuss prominent crossdressers, historical figures, or fictional characters who inspire your style and self-expression.
  • Legal Rights and Protections: Share information about the legal rights and protections for crossdressers in different regions.
  • Supporting Each Other: Talk about how to be supportive allies to fellow crossdressers, both within the group and in the broader community.
  • Personal Growth and Empowerment: Share stories of personal growth and empowerment through crossdressing, and how it has positively impacted your life.
  • How to deal with attraction to other men when dressed.
  • Discuss risky behaviours and is it worth the possible consequences.
  • Balancing dressing, in relationships and in life more generally.
  • How to deal with the generalised misconceptions of cross dressing by people in general.
  • How to improve our value system/self esteem in relation to dressing.
  • Discuss safer environments. where it’s easier to dress.

The fee is £25, and the session will be between one hour and up to a maximum of 90 minutes.

A cross dresser showing his dress.

Why I provide this service:

Since creating my online counselling website in 2007, I’ve had a very steady stream of clients from every corner of the world, who have sought support with cross dressing.

At times these individuals have felt so alone and desperate in relation to their often very misunderstood behaviour and triggers.

They often struggled to understand cross dressing, often feeling alone with an issue which can be distressing at times. This can have a huge impact on their relationships with themselves and their loved ones.

Although these men come from different countries and continents, the issues they face in relation to cross dressing are very much similar, wherever they are from.

I decided to create this therapeutic, facilitated group support option, at the request of several of my one-to-one clients, it seems that they feel they would benefit from having a safe, secure place, where they can speak with other individuals without compromising their identity.

There are some general concerns for most men who cross dress, I aim to explore these topics within the safe confines of this secure chat platform, entry will only be enabled by myself, making it secure and safe.

If you’re interested in this and have got to a place in your one-to-one therapy sessions, then maybe you too, would benefit from facilitated, peer discussion and support.

What some of my clients have said about the facilitated group.

‘Meeting others, even virtually is a difficult situation for most of us who have never shared our ‘secret’.

Paul has built a small community of people who care for each other and make you feel welcome and not awkward at all.

I am enjoying the chance to speak to others in similar situations and share as much as I am comfortable with.

I am looking forward to learning more about my new friends and to becoming the person I now know I can be’

M. Australia.
May 2024.

One of the highlights of Paul’s service are the online group discussions.

They offer an opportunity to virtually meet similarly minded people in a safe, anonymous and mutually supportive environment.

We compare experiences, challenges, similarities, differences and where we each are on our own individual journeys.

They instantly dispel any feeling of isolation for a crossdresser. I thoroughly enjoy and learn something from every session.

B. UK.
April 2024.

‘It’s clear to see the lengths Paul has gone to in order to provide a safe and welcoming space for men who cross dress, it means so much to be able to speak safely, with other like minded men.

The anonymity, the ease of use and the welcoming atmosphere created in this group for men who crossdress, is something I really look forward to every couple of weeks.

The support and selfless sharing of the group members, offers another level of understanding, it seems we all learn something from each other.

The suggested discussions are always interesting and to hear different perspectives, from other cross dressers, from different corners of the world, all at different stages of their cross dressing journey, is so inspiring.

Thank you for developing and facilitating this wonderful group Paul, it’s quite literally changed my life and my relationship too.

My wife is also looking forward to a group discussion, for partners of men who crossdress.’

April 2024.

‘The group discussions have been very helpful. The sharing and the feeling of community have eased my feelings of isolation.

It is refreshing and reassuring to share experiences and to see the similarities and uniqueness of everyone’s path.’

April 2024.


A huge ‘THANK YOU’ for offering a group discussion option, to those of us who have previously accessed your one to one services.

I’ve already participated in several of these group discussions for men who crossdress and the benefit and value of talking to others that share my cross dressing tendencies is immeasurable.

I’m very grateful for the willingness of the other participants, who share their experiences so openly and honestly.

I no longer feel so isolated and alone on my journey. The environment is warm, friendly and very welcoming.

What I particularly like is the privacy and anonymity that it offers and that the level of one’s participation is totally up to each individual.

Your one-to-one counselling service and now this facilitated group discussion for men who cross dress are wonderful resources for anyone looking for support and guidance with their CD journey.’

Steve USA.
April 2024.

‘Hi Paul,

I liked the dynamic. You did a great job with the group, kept the conversation going and you’ve obviously put a lot of work into organising this.

I liked going around each of us as it gives everyone a chance to speak if they want to.

I liked the opportunity to just talk and get something off your mind too. Maybe leave some time aside to do this? Which I think worked well with the closing comments etc.

You can definitely tell people have talked to you already and it’s great getting a group like this together.

Thanks for everything again.’

P. UK.
October 2023.

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