Abuse, no matter what type of Abuse is damaging.  It may not be puposeful but the outcome is always negative on the person being abused, in some ways on the abuser too.  An abused person can be scarred for many years because of an unintentional comment,  If the abuse is over a sustained period of time the damage can be much more difficult to cope with.  Having suffered abuse of any type, what is important is finding someone to trust, abuse shatters trust, so this can be difficult.  At counsellors online we can offer male and female counsellors.

Often where one form of abuse exists, others do too.  A person who has been abused in someway generally has less social support than other people, making the abuser's task easier and the abused person more isolated.  Isolation is a major contributory factor for many forms of abuse.  If a person is staying at home, either too frightened to go out, or unable to for some other reason, he/she becomes much more of a victim of abuse.  Other affects of Abuse can include Anxiety and or depression.

When someone is being abused in any way, what is important is to get it to stop and to help the person being Abused to feel safe.  This sounds simple, but it isn't.  One of the first things that needs to be done to help the person being hurt is that they find someone that they can trust unconditionally.  Finding such a person is extremely difficult.  Many people who genuinely want to help can find themselves so upset that they can do the wrong thing and in some cases make things even worse, this is the last thing that the person being hurt needs. 

What is required is someone who can listen to the facts and help the person being abused to explore the options, look at strategies for staying as safe as possible and to work at the pace of the person being abused.  It is absolutely essential that they stay in control of their situation. At counsellors online we can offer both Male and Female qualified counsellors.

Counselling can offer that kind of support anf help and because online counselling can be accessed from home or work, it offers people being abused one major advantage, the option of seeking help without anyone ever knowing.  They will not be seen entering a building, heard talking to someone, asked questions like "where were you today"?  Online counselling suits the needs of people being abused because it is accessable to them, it is secure, protected by password enabled chat platforms which only the person and the counsellor will ever know about.  See the section "Why online counselling". 

There are many forms of abuse including: Sexual Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Neglect, Bullying, Physical Abuse and Emotional Abuse.  There are others however these are the main forms.  Please see below for a brief description of what they mean.

Many people who were trapped in Abusive relationships have been helped by talking about their experiences,  We have experience and an understanding of Abusive behaviours and can help by clarifying the reasons behind some some of those behaviours.  See some of the testimonials from other people who have turned to counsellors online for help and support.

Neglect is the most common type of abuse. Some research claims children are more likely to be neglected if they're poor because parents are preoccupied with survival – but wealthy families definitely can and do neglect their kids. Neglect occurs when parents or guardians don't provide food, shelter, safety, supervision, clothes, education, attention, or medical treatment – often it's about what they don't do. This is an abusive relationship.

Physical abuse

can be the easiest of all four types of abuse to spot because the clues can be obvious when someone hits, slaps, beats, burns, kicks, or stabs you. However, there may not be evidence when someone grabs your arm, shakes you, or pushes you around – but that's definitely physical abuse. Abusive relationships can be easy to recognize.

Sexual abuse is any form of touching, intercourse, or exploitation of your body. This includes taking pictures you for sexual purposes, asking you to touch someone else's private parts, and making sexual references to your body. Being forced to touch or have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend against your will is sexual abuse. Abusive relationships can make you feel ashamed.

Emotional abuse

is when someone threatens or humiliates you. This includes calling you names, putting you down, insulting you, or breaking your things. Control is a huge part of emotional abuse and involves chronic anger, jealousy, accusations, and distrust. This type of abuse is the hardest to spot because the injuries aren't physical or immediately visible. Emotional abuse can be mistaken for passionate or intense love. Abusive relationships don't always involve physical violence.

Bullying

is the act of intentionally causing harm to others, through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coersion such as manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. Although the UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, some US states have laws against it. Bullying is usually done to coerce others by fear or threat.

Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse.

No matter how isolated you feel, we are here and able to help.  You will find that we will work with you at your own pace and help you to explore ways to make you and your loved ones safe.

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