Paul Parkin is a qualified, experienced Counsellor and Life Coach offering Confidential help and support to Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian and Transgendered people online. Paul has several years experience in the Sexuality counselling field and understands the issues affecting his clients around the world.  Research proves that Gay Affirmative Therapy and counselling and Life Coaching works more effectively with people with Sexuality worries, so why not give it a try, after all you are worth it. 

In its broadest sense Sexuality describes the whole way a person goes about expressing themselves as a Sexual Being. It describes how important Sexual Expression is in a person's life; how they choose to express that Sexuality and any preference they may have towards the type of Sexual partner they choose.

Every survey of human Sexual Behaviour reveals that there is a huge variety of sexual expression - the way we choose to behave Sexually is usually as individual and as complicated as the ways we choose to dress or to earn a living.

Human Sexuality rarely falls into neat categories or lends itself to simple labelling. Human Sexuality is a rich and complex area of human experience. Authors, artists, poets, philosophers and composers have worked to explore Sexuality from earliest times without coming up with any enduring answers.

In recent times however, the word Sexuality has come to also have a more limited meaning.  Sexuality is now often defined by whether the gender of the Sexual Partners we choose is the same as our own or different.  Some feel this more restrictive definition can create problems since it attempts to fit a complex, subtle experience into three or four simple categories.

However it also offers solutions since it can give people who do not feel they share the major assumptions of the dominant heterosexual mainstream the voice, pride and sense of validation that comes from discovering an identity and a shared experience with others.  Whilst exploring our sexuality we may become anxious, stressed or even depressed.

You may hear some of the following words associated with sexuality, some demonstrate the narrowness of thinking on what is actually a wide ranging issue:

• Gay or Homosexual
• Straight or Heterosexual
• Bi or Bisexual
• Lesbian
• Queer
• Transexual
• Transgender
• Transvestite
• Confused
• Queer
• Homo

 

A hot debate has endured over recent years about why people's sexuality differs. Many theories have been put forward - citing genetic pre-determination (Nature), childhood influences (Nurture) and peer-pressure amongst other reasons. However, attempts to find a single cause for individual's choices of sexual orientation have not been successful and the experts in the field of Human Sexuality cannot agree.

Nor have attempts to influence or change individual's sexuality. Like many of our other characteristics, Ssexuality seems to be largely a chance product of our individual nature which is then further developed by our early interactions. Like many other personality traits, our Sexuality seems to be formed by the time we reach our teenage years, although it may be many years later before we each understand and accept our Sexuality. Our Sexuality seems resistant to attempts to radically change it.

Exploring Sexuality can be a difficult experience, however if you can find someone you can trust to talk things through, it can be a huge relief. This is where we can help, with Counsellors that work in a Gay Affirmitave Approach to Sexuality issues. Confidential Secure Online Counselling, Email Counselling or Online Counselling can really make that first step a lot easier.

If you are not happy with yourself, you'll just keep searching for the next best thing to fill the gaps you feel inside. No one said it's easy; we all have our struggles and lessons to learn. But if you are looking for a happier life, you probably won't find it in a bar or a chat room. You'll find it by working on your self-acceptance and Self Esteem, spending time with supportive individuals and taking actions that will bring you lasting results. Talk to a Counsellor about what is holding you back and live the life you want.

Remember, sex is only a small part of Sexuality, it is also about Love and who we are as people.  It can be private, just the same as it is for anyone else.  You do not have to tell anyone until you feel you want to.  If you need help working through your feelings, we are here to help. Remember you are not alone, latest statistics suggest that at least 10% of the UK population have at some time in their lives had a same sex Relationship of some kind.

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