Paul Parkin is a qualified, experienced Counsellor and Life Coach offering Confidential help and support to people with Self Esteem issues. Paul has several years experience in the Confidence and Self Esteem building field and he understands the issues affecting his clients with low self esteem. Research proves that self esteem counselling and Life Coaching increases Self Esteem fast, so why not give it a try, after all you are worth it and the benefits last a lifetime. Online counselling is easily accessable from your home or work place. Counsellors Onine now offers the cheapest counseling available anywhere, only 19.99GBP for a full 50 Minute session. To book a session click here.
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What is self-esteem? We all use the expression 'self-esteem', but what do we mean by it?
Some people think that self-esteem means confidence - and of course confidence comes into it - but it's rather more than that.
The fact is that there are any number of apparently confident people who can do marvellous things but who have poor self-esteem. They may use some of these words to describe themselves. Not everyone will say these things out loud but many people may feel this way. - I feel stupid
- I haven't accomplished anything
- I am a failure
- I did not reach my full potential
- I hate myself
- I hate my body
- I am ugly
- I am too fat or too thin
- I have no confidence
- I need a makeover
Many people in the public eye fall into this category. Actors and comedians and singers in particular can seem to glow with assurance 'on stage', and yet off-stage many of them feel desperately insecure.
Indeed, individuals can be stunningly attractive and world-famous, and seem poised and perfect - yet still, deep down, find it hard to value themselves. Think of the late Princess of Wales and Marilyn Monroe and you'll accept, I think, that public adulation is no guarantee of self-belief.
So, if self-esteem isn't quite the same thing as confidence, what is it?  Self Esteem Counselling Well, the word 'esteem' comes from a Latin word which means 'to estimate'. So, self-esteem is how you estimate yourself.
To do that you need to ask yourself certain questions: • Do I like myself?
• Do I think I'm a good human being?
• Am I someone deserving of love?
• Do I deserve happiness?
• Do I really feel - both in my mind and deep in my guts - that I'm an OK person? People with low self-esteem find it hard to answer 'yes' to these questions. Perhaps you are one of them. If so, what can you do?
I don't think very highly of my self and I have no confidence please help me. I feel so alone and I cannot sustain a relationship with anyone. Alex. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Hello Alex, I am sorry to hear you feel alone, but you are not. Please email me and let's sort this out. Self Esteem can take a while to improve, but the good news is that it can be improved with some very simple exercises which I will help you with. More confidence will come with better self esteem and you will have a better relationship with yourself and others, you will then feel less alone. It may belp to take a look at the following link on Relationships there is a section on the importance of the relationship we have with our self. I hope to hear from you soon Alex. Paul Parkin - Online life coach and online counselor. |
How can you improve your self-esteem?
 Self Esteem Counselling
Firstly, you can begin by accepting that you are certainly not alone. Around 65% of the UK population (It is even higher in the United States) have this problem, and turn to a qualified self esteem counsellor, Therapist or Life Coach for confidential support and to explore ways of building self esteem, and yes it can be done quite effectively in relatively short time scales in most cases. Online counselling and online Life Coaching makes seeking help easily accessable from your home or work place.
Secondly, you can take on board a very important fact, which is that you are a wonderful, individual and special person - and there is no one quite like you. Your fingerprints and your DNA are totally different from everybody else's - unless you happen to have an identical twin. And your mind - and how it thinks and operates - is absolutely your own. This means that out of six billion people in the world, you are a one-off. So if nature has bothered to make you utterly unique, don't you feel that you should accept that you're important, and that you have as much right as anyone else to be on this planet?
An Experienced, Qualified Counsellor will help you explore the reasons for low or poor Self Esteem. Many people who suffer from Low Self Esteem may have felt like that from Childhood and Counselling is very effective at repairing and improving Self EsteemBy helping you to explore and confront the underlying reasons, and then using our knowledge and experience to raise and improve how you feel about yourself, you will feel a lot better, usually people say that they feel better after only a couple of sessions. By feeling good about yourself, you will become a much happier person. What is low self-esteem?  Self Esteem Counselling
Put simply, your self-esteem is how well you think about yourself compared to other people, such as friends and workmates. Low self-esteem means that you think you are a lesser person than others. It can often be traced back to early childhood experiences, such as heavy criticism, being abandoned, feeling unloved, feeling unattractive, too fat or too thin. Being ridiculed or abused. It can also be a symptom of depression.
What are the signs of low self-esteem?
The signs can vary, but they may include some or all of the following: • Feeling that you're not good enough - even if you are
• Decreased confidence
• Putting yourself down all the time
• Being too scared to try new things
• Unsure of your good qualities
• Making no effort because you expect to mess things up
• Being timid, not asserting yourself
• Losing your temper
• Picking fights
• Worrying about getting even
• Blaming others for your problems
• Constantly bickering about petty issues Raising your self-esteem Counselling and short-term cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) are very helpful for most people. It allows a person to clear out the cobwebs and release their inhibitions step by step. Raising self-esteem enables you to feel better about your self and recognise your good qualities. Your relationships improve, and you become a happier person. Talking with an online counselor is so accessable, just request a session now and start the healing process, you will never look back. In just a few hours you could be well on your way to developing higher Self Esteem and a better, more fulfilling life.
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