Anger Counselling

Anger can be One of the most destructive issues within relationships and within societies. The existence of Anger within any kind of Relationship be it intimate or the relationship we have with ourselves can be a major reason for seperation and Divorce and inner turmoil. Anger can often lead us into destructive behaviours against ourselves and create serious Self Harming issues. Often anger can escalate and lead to violence towards others, particularly within relationships, this is often called Domestic Violence or Domestic Abuse.

Understanding your Anger

It's important to understand the various components which define Anger before we go about tackling it.

First, anger is a normal process that has allowed humans to evolve and adapt. The Fight or Flight response which we are all blueprinted with as Humans is in it's essence a strategy for survival, It isn't a bad thing in itself, but problems occur if our Anger is not understood and managed correctly.

Anger is a combination of both emotional and physical triggers within the mind and body. A big surge of wayward energy is released into our bodies when these triggers are realised, a chemical (adrenaline) is released into the bloodstream when Anger is triggered.

Once the cause of the anger is addressed, you may still have to deal with the still powerful Physical effects, all the energy created by the Adrenaline has to go somewhere. This is often taken out on another person such as a partner, this is often given the name Domestic Abuse, or sometimes Anger may be taken out on an object by punching a door, for example. This last scenario can in some cases lead to self-harming behaviours.

Many people use another strategy for dealing with their anger, they suppress the energy until the next time they are angry. This may mean you release so much pent-up emotion that you overreact to the next anger occurrence. This is often seen in news headlines when for an often unknown reason the normally placid individual totally loses control with devastating consequences.

Not all anger is negative, because of the surge of energy anger creates, it can be pleasurable and can in many cases ease Stress levels. This feeling is reinforced if becoming angry allows the release of feelings of frustration, or if a person's response to your anger gives you a sense of power.

It's important to acknowledge and keep an eye on this side of the problem - it can have an almost addictive element, it can be seen by many men for example at a football match, or many other sporting events where bodily contact plays a part.

Anger can be closely linked to Drug and Alcohol addiction or dependency, though not necessarily in all cases.

Recognise Anger

Recognising Anger

It's important to be aware of both the positive and negative feelings you get from anger.

By recognising the positive and negative feelings associated with your anger, it's important to find ways to express Angery feelings safely and in a non destructive manner.

Each person's positives are unique, so there will be different solutions for everyone, but some strategies may include trying a non-contact competitive sport, learning relaxation or meditation, shouting and screaming in a private quiet place, banging your fists into a pillow, going running, or anything which enables you to release the energy in a controlled way.

Anger Counselling at counsellors online

There are several sucessful Anger Management techniques which will help you to get your Anger under control and remove the associated risk to yourself and others. For help with all aspects of anger complete the session request now and make your anger safe.

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